Ugandan women back men on extra-marital affairs
Apr 13, 2017
Five in every 10 women agreed that it was okay for a man to hit a woman if she cheated on him
Look away feminists and puritans who believe that a man should only have sexual intercourse with his wife and at not any onetime ‘sleep outside'.
A new survey by the non-profit human development organization FHI360 indicates that contrary to common belief, some Ugandan women are actually okay with their men seeing other sexual partners — as long as the men still provide for the family and don't contract sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV and infect them.
A total of 4017 men and women from selected 16 districts across the country were asked whether or not a man "must have sex with other women even if things with his wife are fine." Three in every 10 women agreed it was okay, same number as men — three in every 10.
The 2015/16survey, which sought to determine violence, especially that meted against women in rural and urban Uganda, did not include whether or not a woman must have sex with other men, even if relationships with her hubby were fine.
But it included whether or not it was okay for a man to hit a woman if she cheated on him. And five in every 10 women agreed that it was okay, compared to six in every 10 men who backed the social construction.
Two in every 10 women agreed it was okay for a man to hit his wife if she denied him sex, also same figure as men — two in every 10.
Joanita Kawalya, a national AIDS research committee member, said social biases needed to change to empower to develop right attitudes and make right decisions."
"This shows there is something wrong with our communities and our attitudes towards women have to be righted," she said.
The UNCST okays all research conducted in the country.
A lot has been talked about men also being victims of gender based violence, but it is still women who suffer the most brunt of the injustice.
Veronica Nakijoba, also from the School of Women and Gender Studies at Makerere University, said the GBV had outgrown homesteads and now was also evident at schools, with male teachers abusing female colleagues and vice versa and girl children suffering the most.
"Some boys peep into girl's bags and laugh at them when they are carrying sanitary pads. They peep into their toilets and start making fun of the girls," she said.
"This contributes to the high school drop-out rates among the girls," she said.
Dr. Sam Okware said lots of the causes of GBV were hidden away in the bedroom and couldn't be seen. But GBV is a hindrance to the positive social economic transformation of Uganda that the country so badly craves.