He made me hate men, love and relationships

Angela Katatumba, singer and businesswoman, talks to Carol Kasujja about music, love and food

 

Since my childhood, my family members call me Kikazi. My mother told me she adopted that name because I always acted in a mature way and carried myself as an old woman, yet I was young. I always looked after my elder brothers.

Two weeks back, I received a call from Urban TV, saying they were watching the video for my song So Close on YouTube and they wanted to have it. Out of curiosity, I googled my name and I was blown away from what I saw. I found 1,600 results about me. It was overwhelming. I saw my songs, videos, pictures, Facebook posts and stories about me from different media houses.

 

Carol, that is the last thing on my agenda. I was once in a serious relationship when I was in the US. I loved this black American n****; you would think we invented love. I eliminated all my friends. I hardly ever called home because of him. We started planning together, but the boy was violent. He could shatter glasses on the floor when he was annoyed.

 

Every week, I was buying something new, but I could not see all that because I was committed to him. I put in my all because I thought it was going to be a lifetime thing and the results were disappointing. He just woke up one day and told me: ‘Angie, I am done.’ It was the most shocking news I had ever received. I cried, begged him to stay, but he would not listen. From that time, I hated men, love and relationships.

Yeah! He came back when I had moved to Chicago and funny enough, I allowed him back in my life because I loved him. Being my first cut, he meant the world to me. But after some time, I lost feelings for him. He would touch me in bed but I would not feel anything. When he asked me whether I wanted space, I told him yes. From that time, I had never heard from him. I realised I was just naïve and young to accept him in my life.

I am taking my time and praying to God. When I land on a confident, God-fearing, respectable, hardworking and well-groomed man, I will date him. I have realised most people I give an opportunity to come into my life just want to date Angela Katatumba, the musician and not the person. 

 

 I grew up with chefs; my parents would do everything for me, so I never had the opportunity to cook. But I am learning. People tell me that to keep a man, I need to learn how to cook. But who tells you that the basis of a relationship is all about food and cooking? I will learn to cook or hire maids.