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Dear Total man,

I have been married for 10 years and have two kids. My wife does not feel the urge to have sex at all. She just does it for my sake. It has been like that for some time. Can you help?

Salim

Dear Salim,

Lack of sexual desire is a major problem for many women. One does not feel like having sex and this goes on for a long time. Possible causes in a woman include diseases like anaemia (low blood levels), alcoholism, drug abuse, diabetes and some medical drugs. Some women lose desire for sex after childbirth, especially a difficult delivery. Psychological reasons like depression, stress, anxiety, childhood problems of sex, past sexual abuse or rape, serious intimate problems, difficult living conditions like sharing a home with in-laws, affect sexual desires. Usually, a cause has to be found. First see a medical doctor to find and deal with any physical problem. Counselling will help both of you. The fact that you are willing to help is good.

Dr. Paul Semugoma
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