God showed me my wife's name, country and what she looked like

As a man of God who spends much of his time with the Bible, how did you meet your wife?

Because of the ministry, I did not want to marry. I knew I was always going to be busy fasting and in seclusion.

But in 2010, when my ministry was growing, many people started asking me for a wife and that is when the Lord spoke to me in a dream to get a wife.

I did not respond. Instead, I started advising those around me to get married.

In March 2012, the Lord told me again that I must marry by the end of that year. I brushed it off until one day, when I received a vision from Him showing me my wife's name, country and what she looked like.

I had never seen or spoken to her. In July 2012, I boarded a plane to India to find her. I went to the exact church that I saw in the dream and the first person to welcome me turned out to be my wife.

How did you convince her that you had been sent by God?

That evening, she drove me to my hotel and I asked her to bring her father to me. Indians are discriminative, but everything went on well, there was a connection.

I was never discriminated. When her father came to my hotel at 4:00pm, he asked me what the matter was.

I told him that I wanted to marry his daughter. I told him my plans even before talking to his daughter. They asked for some time and went away.

They came back to my hotel at 7:00pm and told me that I was the right person. That is when she revealed to us that she had also got a dream that she was going to marry a pastor, but from India.

It was a Wednesday, I proposed on Saturday and we had our engagement that day because I was supposed to come back to Uganda on Sunday.

After the function, I came back to Uganda alone because she had to first resign at her workplace. She came to Uganda after three weeks. In August 2012, we got married in Uganda. We are happily married with a son.

How is the marriage?

Indian women are patient, even if you spend a month without sex, she will not complain. I take months without sex, especially when I am fasting.

Is it wrong to have sex while fasting?

It is wrong even if you are married. Purity is one of the biggest key to have God's power.

You have to deny your flesh its desires so that you can be filled by his Holy Spirit.

There is a time when different pastors were fighting my ministry, I had to go into serious prayers and the Lord fought those battles. You cannot win such battles if you have sex during fasting.

What is your secret of keeping the relationship burning?

 

Married people should avoid sleeping in the same bedroom. Have a spare room so that when you are in your menstruation period or annoyed, you sleep alone, because men are too weak, something small can put them off.

With a spare room, by the time you come back to your marital bedroom, you will be new and your partner will be excited to sleep with you. There is need for privacy for married people.

How do you solve challenges in your marriage?

My marriage has no challenges. God gave me a good wife, who is understanding.

For the eight years we have been married, we have never conflicted. When she is annoyed, I know how to deal with her.

How do you spend your leisure time?

Both of us are preachers, so you will most likely find us talking about scripture. We used to travel, but time came when I realised that my spirit was uncomfortable with some hotels.

So I built my place and if I want to have fun, we sit down together and have a cup of tea.

Why do we have so many cases of divorce in church?

The biggest challenge we have is fantasy. When people watch others get married, they also develop interest without getting prepared.

They rush into relationships and after the function, reality sets in. That is when they realise that they have never been in love.

 

These days some men leave all the responsibility to women, how has that affected families?

Some men seem to be losing the sense of responsibility because of poor upbringing.

Those are the men you find playing video games in their homes when their pregnant wives are slashing the compound. Parents should groom boys to become good husbands.

What are the dangers of marrying a man who was not groomed?

When a boy grows up without being groomed, he will blame his wife for his failures and when the wife tries to talk to him, he will make her an enemy.

We advise husbands at home not to just watch television, but help their wives with chores so that young boys can learn that a man does not just sit and watch television. He has to help his wife.