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Letter to the single and those above 30 years

By Carol Nyangoma Mukisa

Added 10th September 2020 06:31 PM

Someone’s worth is not woven into their relationship status even if society has made it seem that way.

Letter to the single and those above 30 years

Carol Nyangoma Mukisa

Someone’s worth is not woven into their relationship status even if society has made it seem that way.

OPINION

COVID-19 is currently the most worrying issue globally. Most countries, including Uganda, are still not sure of their fate regarding the pandemic.

Not when the country just registered the highest number of COVID-19 cases at 318 in a single day.

However, there is a trending epidemic in our community called ‘NOT-YET-MARRIED'.

Anyone in the company of those 30 years and above, especially women, can testify that this epidemic is encroaching on the focus group's well-being.

The lockdown worsened the situation as many singles found themselves locked up all alone.

Perhaps some of them have already resorted to drug abuse due to depression.

Social media worsened it because it calls for sense of comparison as couples and families post pictures or videos of themselves enjoying the lockdown.

I personally don't think singleness is something to be dreaded and lamented about.

No one was born dating or married, it was a processes.

It is even okayed in the Bible; 1 Corinthians 7:8, "Now to the unmarried/single and the widows I say; it is good for them to stay unmarried as I am."

Singles, you are just as good and important as anyone married. Someone's worth is not woven into their relationship status even if society has made it seem that way.

The community is partly to blame for the rising pressures regarding marriage and maybe blame it on our African culture!

Much as the culture makes marriage sound more prestigious more than life itself, the truth is it's beautiful to be married.

We are all created for community. Ecclesiastes 4:9 says "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work".

However, this doesn't mean people's value is measured according to their marital status!

In other words, it is these pressures that are making very many young people make uninformed and irrational relationship decisions.

We have seen many who lure their boyfriends to conceive and have children with the hope of securing a marriage.

No wonder the overwhelming number of single parents! Some people even enter marriage just to calm society down.

Our goal as a community should not be how many couples have been married off but how many couples have celebrated more anniversaries.

There is more to life than having a marriage ring. Sit down, get a paper and write down your other achievements, celebrate them and be grateful. Could be the lives you have touched or that PhD you just completed!

Have special groups you belong to; it could be a football team, church community, and also, avoid that terrible constant reminder about your singleness by changing your mindset.

Mind what you feed your conscious and subconscious mind.

Broken relationships have led to more broken goals and finally broken lives.

 You may have been dumped or jilted, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are unworthy.

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