How can I get my boyfriend to consider me more?

My boyfriend lives with his parents during the week and stays with me the weekend. He does not contribute to the household when he stays and may sometimes buy food for us. But not always. His way of paying his way is to cut the grass and tidy the garden several times a year.

He has also asked me for a key to my home but I feel reluctant to give it to him as he does not live with me. When we go out for meals we pay for ourselves and when he does pay, he keeps a score of how much he paid.

He always asks me what we are doing over the weekend and he never takes the initiative, also when he pays he checks out the prices in the restaurant before we go in.

We have been together for 6 years, both in our thirties and independent. I feel that I would like to feel spoilt at least once a month by him surprising me by doing something I might like.

He never tells me to get ready to go out for dinner; it's always decided on the day, which takes the romance out of the relationship. I do not feel he is my rock in a crisis.

We no longer say complimentary things to each other and I feel we are drifting apart. The intimacy between us has not been good this last month and I feel resentful of him doing as he pleases without any consideration to myself.

If I try and say how I feel he gets defensive. Your advice would be much appreciated.