Party girls who will wife you?
Aug 09, 2013
They party hard or even harder than the average guy, who does not approve or consider them marriage material. ‘Party girls’, they call them. (Judgmental society tag, if you ask me.) They are just single girls going about their ‘single-ness’.
By Angela Kateemu
They party hard or even harder than the average guy, who does not approve or consider them marriage material. ‘Party girls’, they call them. (Judgmental society tag, if you ask me.) They are just single girls going about their ‘single-ness’.
Cindy Lauper says it aptly, ‘Girls just wanna have fun.’ That does not make them any less marriageable than the miss-goody-two-shoes Christian/Muslim girl that you think your mother will so definitely approve of.
There is more to this bias and it goes beyond these girls going out and rolling in shots of tequila and generally having fun. The guys do it too; consecutive days of bottoms-up whiskey parties and we do not think they are any less marriage material.
The party girl is by all means marriageable — you are just using a bad experience with a wild card to judge the rest harshly.
She is single, why do you expect her to act like she is married?
There is time for that. She is independent and can afford to party. Not everyone likes sitting home and watching soaps or late night television on a Saturday night. She works hard all week, and housework at home consists of cleaning her two-roomed house and making herself a light meal like spaghetti.
She is young and can still afford to go out, why shouldn’t she? Maybe some girls take it too far and party with reckless abandon, but so what? There is much time to grow up and be more responsible.
You fell for the party girl, but now you want a saint! MEN!
Dude, you bit off more than you could chew when you thought you could change her… stop blaming the whole girl fraternity for it. You met her and she was a wild party girl and you loved hopping from one bar to the other with her.
Perhaps you thought you had a lot of time to shape her into the kind of woman you want to introduce to your mother.
She thinks you like her as a party girl, after all you met in a club, dated in bars and had your first kiss at a wild house party and you seem to enjoy yourself just as much as she does.
She will not change. If your girlfriend does not want to give up her partying ways, she is fine to date, but keep the engagement ring under lock and key and stop complaining.
Why are you hunting for a mate at 3:00am?
Men hunt for party girls, but do not think they make good wives? How about you start looking for a mate at the library or the corner store? Why are you looking to hook the perfect wife in the bar at 3:00am? Clearly, the two of you are compatible party animals. Go with it, you just may have the happily-ever-after.
“We were both party animals, still are, but we have settled down. It is all about timing,” says Rachael Wandera.
“I was the ultimate party girl, I am talking of dancing on tables and pounding back drinks right along with the guys. I have been with my husband for 10 years, raised two great daughters, love to cook and run our family business.
Any guy who could have looked past my partying and took the time to get to know me, would have realised that. I laugh at all the guys long ago who pegged me as ‘not marriage material,’ opting to date the quieter more subdued types’.
I tell you, with me, my husband’s never bored.”
Not marriage material? Cliché.
There are girls who are judged just from their looks as ‘not-marriage-material’, party girl or otherwise. Which begs the question: Who is marriage material?
Is it the church goer, Bible-wielding puritan, or the boring Catholic girl who dresses like some nanny from an old sitcom?
Men claim to be attracted to qualities such as loyalty, discretion and kindness when they look for a wife. Yet they go out hunting for the feisty and flirty party girl who possesses an undeniable sex appeal, not to mention perhaps the most lusted-after derriere in the world.
And when they hook up that sexy siren, they do not think she is marriageable. It is not her party girl streak that scares you, but her sexiness and your insecurity.
Men do not look for sexy wives, because — at a basic animal level — they want to be sure the children they are raising are their own. Insecurity!
Party girl or not, judging if a woman is marriage material should go beyond her having a couple of night-outs on a weekend.
When the booze wears off, women are human just like the men. At the end of the day, they all want to be loved, but that does not mean that they should put their life on hold as they wait for some bloke to get on one knee and put a rock on their finger?