Keep romance alive even after children arrive

Feb 13, 2013

In comes children, out goes romance is a common saying. It is true that before the children come in, marriage is just about two people. But when they come along, it becomes the business of more than two people.

In comes children, out goes romance is a common saying. It is true that before the children come in, marriage is just about two people. But when they come along, it becomes the business of more than two people.
 
Household chores also double and this makes it difficult for the couple to go out for dinners. However, romance must be kept alive. A marriage can easily grow cold if romance is not stimulated. This Valentine’s, dare to have romantic moments as a couple.
 
Get someone to take care of the baby 
You can ask a trusted friend or family member to take care of your baby or children for at least two hours as you go out and have some fun as a couple.
 
Do not feel guilty that you are away from your children. Young parents tend to feel this way. But relax and enjoy yourself. Your children will be safe, so take time to connect with your spouse. 

Write each other letters 
Sometimes married couples take each other for granted. When you write about your spouse’s strengths, you discover how much gold you have and it will make you more grateful to have them. 
 
Your spouse may not be the richest man in the world and he may not help you with household chores, but there are a number of good things about them, which you should let them know this Valentine’s.

Re-kindle gift-giving in your marriage
Couples usually give each other lots of presents when dating. For some reason, gift-giving dies out with marriage and when children come along. Every couple that wants to have a great Valentine’s should invest in gifts as they rekindle romance and endear couples to each other.
 
Involve older children in the celebrations 
If you have older children, this can also be an opportunity for you to show them how much you love each other. You can give each other presents in their presence and thank each other before them. This can make good memories for them.
 
Do not bring up contentious issues 
It may be school fees or poor academic performance by one of the children, but whatever the issue is, avoid bringing it up during the Valentine’s celebrations. Mentioning anything that is worrying will kill the mood. Keep the discussion for another time. 
 
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