Dear Aunt Liz
Dear Aunt Liz,<br>I am 25 and have been dating someone for two years. At the start, everything was okay, but after eight months she started behaving strangely.
She neither picks nor texts back
Dear Aunt Liz,
I am 25 and have been dating someone for two years. At the start, everything was okay, but after eight months she started behaving strangely.
She was not responding to my text messages and some times would even refuse to pick my calls. Please help me.
Salim
Dear Salim,
It is clear that your girlfriend is avoiding you. I
appreceiate your expression of love for her and if it is for love, the relationship will get smooth again. Do the two of you live distant from each other? Sometimes, long separation from each other can create such a gap. Apart from making phone calls or sms, how frequently are you able to physically meet? Or is she even avoiding you on this one? You may find that this strange behaviour is calling your attention to something that could be happening in the relationship. Find some time and talk because it may create an open door for her to express herself. If she hesitates to meet you, do not push for it, but rather give her time, love will cause her to come back. Avoid being defensive or passing blame, this will only make her move farther from you.
My hectic job makes her think I care not
I have just finished my studies and I got a job. However, it is a demanding one, that sometimes requires me to work even on weekends. My girlfriend does not seem to understand this. She complains a lot these days, saying I have abandoned her. Whenever we meet, she checks my phone. I do not understand this because I try to spare time and even call while at work. I love her but I think she is going too far. What can I do?
Kirk
Dear Kirk,
Relationships undergo stress because of changes in life. It is hard to avoid this because the changes do come anyway and we somehow have to strike a balance and move on. It may not be easy for her to understand your position because she is not in your shoes. Besides this, she seems insecure and suspicious that someone may possibly be taking her place. May be that is why she is finding it hard to accept the fact that you have to be away. Make time when you are less busier, and explain this to her, give her the assurance that you love her. You can still maintain the phone calls or even just an sms to let her know that you are thinking about her.
Dear Aunt Liz,
I am 25 and have been dating someone for two years. At the start, everything was okay, but after eight months she started behaving strangely.
She was not responding to my text messages and some times would even refuse to pick my calls. Please help me.
Salim
Dear Salim,
It is clear that your girlfriend is avoiding you. I
appreceiate your expression of love for her and if it is for love, the relationship will get smooth again. Do the two of you live distant from each other? Sometimes, long separation from each other can create such a gap. Apart from making phone calls or sms, how frequently are you able to physically meet? Or is she even avoiding you on this one? You may find that this strange behaviour is calling your attention to something that could be happening in the relationship. Find some time and talk because it may create an open door for her to express herself. If she hesitates to meet you, do not push for it, but rather give her time, love will cause her to come back. Avoid being defensive or passing blame, this will only make her move farther from you.
My hectic job makes her think I care not
I have just finished my studies and I got a job. However, it is a demanding one, that sometimes requires me to work even on weekends. My girlfriend does not seem to understand this. She complains a lot these days, saying I have abandoned her. Whenever we meet, she checks my phone. I do not understand this because I try to spare time and even call while at work. I love her but I think she is going too far. What can I do?
Kirk
Dear Kirk,
Relationships undergo stress because of changes in life. It is hard to avoid this because the changes do come anyway and we somehow have to strike a balance and move on. It may not be easy for her to understand your position because she is not in your shoes. Besides this, she seems insecure and suspicious that someone may possibly be taking her place. May be that is why she is finding it hard to accept the fact that you have to be away. Make time when you are less busier, and explain this to her, give her the assurance that you love her. You can still maintain the phone calls or even just an sms to let her know that you are thinking about her.