Dear Aunt Liz
Feb 19, 2010
I am a 24-year-old university student. I have been with my girlfriend since 2008. Recently she told me she was pregnant.
She wants to abort but I want the child
I am a 24-year-old university student. I have been with my girlfriend since 2008. Recently she told me she was pregnant. She asked me for money to abort the baby but I refused. She said if her father found out about the pregnancy, he would not pay her tuition. I cannot afford her tuition and provide other necessities but I want her to have the baby. Now she does not even want to speak to me. Please advise .
M.E.L MAKERERE UNIVERSITY
Dear M.E.L
You need to take extra care before making any decision. Your girlfriend is in a dilemma. She has fears that are forcing her to make such a decision. She should realise that abortion is risky for the expectant mother. Besides, it is morally wrong. It may sound like a quick solution but it bears so many consequences that are hard to live with afterwards. It is not an easy moment for her now and she needs a lot of support. You may need to break through and speak to her or at the least find someone else to support you. You could get support from a counsellor or someone she can listen to. This will bring her to a point of acceptance. Is she living with her parents? Breaking the news to her parents may be hard but it is necessary even when the consequences may be tough. This is not time to regret. It is time to make responsible decisions for the future.
I want to take the child
I moved in with my boyfriend when I was about to give birth. After the baby was born, he started behaving strangely. He would beat me, quarrel and when I would ask what I had done wrong, he would abuse me. I decided to leave his house but he stopped me from going with the baby. I am confused. I do not know what he wants from me. Its now two years since I moved out but I think I am able to take care of the child on my own. Please advise me.
P.R
Dear P.R,
You must be going through a very painful time having to live without your child. The decision to leave was necessary even when it was at the expense of your child. After two years apart, a lot could have happened. You need to speak to you partner about the need to have the child. Let him know what made you leave. Did you have any legal binding between the two of you? Was he introduced to your parents? If you had something formal then you may have to get legal advise in relation to getting custody of the child. Be patient as you work through this and remember, you are doing it for your child. All the best
I am a 24-year-old university student. I have been with my girlfriend since 2008. Recently she told me she was pregnant. She asked me for money to abort the baby but I refused. She said if her father found out about the pregnancy, he would not pay her tuition. I cannot afford her tuition and provide other necessities but I want her to have the baby. Now she does not even want to speak to me. Please advise .
M.E.L MAKERERE UNIVERSITY
Dear M.E.L
You need to take extra care before making any decision. Your girlfriend is in a dilemma. She has fears that are forcing her to make such a decision. She should realise that abortion is risky for the expectant mother. Besides, it is morally wrong. It may sound like a quick solution but it bears so many consequences that are hard to live with afterwards. It is not an easy moment for her now and she needs a lot of support. You may need to break through and speak to her or at the least find someone else to support you. You could get support from a counsellor or someone she can listen to. This will bring her to a point of acceptance. Is she living with her parents? Breaking the news to her parents may be hard but it is necessary even when the consequences may be tough. This is not time to regret. It is time to make responsible decisions for the future.
I want to take the child
I moved in with my boyfriend when I was about to give birth. After the baby was born, he started behaving strangely. He would beat me, quarrel and when I would ask what I had done wrong, he would abuse me. I decided to leave his house but he stopped me from going with the baby. I am confused. I do not know what he wants from me. Its now two years since I moved out but I think I am able to take care of the child on my own. Please advise me.
P.R
Dear P.R,
You must be going through a very painful time having to live without your child. The decision to leave was necessary even when it was at the expense of your child. After two years apart, a lot could have happened. You need to speak to you partner about the need to have the child. Let him know what made you leave. Did you have any legal binding between the two of you? Was he introduced to your parents? If you had something formal then you may have to get legal advise in relation to getting custody of the child. Be patient as you work through this and remember, you are doing it for your child. All the best