Would you marry a man who has a child?
Apr 09, 2010
THE men have had their say, and majority seem to have a problem dating a woman with a child. Are women equally biased and ‘insensitive’ about dating a man with a child? <b>REHEMA AANYU</b> talked to readers and brings you their views.
THE men have had their say, and majority seem to have a problem dating a woman with a child. Are women equally biased and ‘insensitive’ about dating a man with a child? REHEMA AANYU talked to readers and brings you their views.
Hannat Nabadda, student
No, because I wouldn’t know how to handle his children. It is best for kids to grow up with their biological parents.Â
Vivienne Mutesi, banker
I would marry him if the children’s mother is dead. If she is alive, the children may think I caused the break-up and thus cause havoc, making it impossible for me to love them.
Rebecca Nakami, cleaner
It is difficult to marry such a man. What caused the break up with the mother of his children? Maybe he mistreated her. I would be so suspicious of such a man that I would not marry him.
Amina Babi, shop attendant
I would marry him if they are only two kids and are above 10 years. I would then ask him to send them to boarding school and to their mother during holidays.
Victoria Kyomugisha, fashion designer
Yes, I would because I also have a child. As long he cuts all ties with the other woman, he would be the perfect man for me because I know he would love my child as much as I love his. In any case, I have come to know that single fathers desire stability and would settle down for the sake of their children.
Mariam Ssemakula,
Makerere University student
I am married to a man with children and it is not challenging as long as you respect them and their father. As long as you do not bad-mouth their mother, it is possible for the children to respect you. It is important to show them parental love and not segregate them when you get your own children.
Gorreti Nakatudde, trader
I would not marry such a man because I would not have a say in matters regarding his children. It would be hard to point out their mistakes as I may be misunderstood by the children, my husband and his relatives.
Harriet Nongoola, accountant
Yes, I would, as long as we set down rules of engagement and stick to them. My step-children will also have to understand that I have not come to hurt them.
Lucy Nalwadda, student, 20
Yes I would as long as he loves me and caters for my every need. I would not find it difficult to love his children.
Hannat Nabadda, student
No, because I wouldn’t know how to handle his children. It is best for kids to grow up with their biological parents.Â
Vivienne Mutesi, banker
I would marry him if the children’s mother is dead. If she is alive, the children may think I caused the break-up and thus cause havoc, making it impossible for me to love them.
Rebecca Nakami, cleaner
It is difficult to marry such a man. What caused the break up with the mother of his children? Maybe he mistreated her. I would be so suspicious of such a man that I would not marry him.
Amina Babi, shop attendant
I would marry him if they are only two kids and are above 10 years. I would then ask him to send them to boarding school and to their mother during holidays.
Victoria Kyomugisha, fashion designer
Yes, I would because I also have a child. As long he cuts all ties with the other woman, he would be the perfect man for me because I know he would love my child as much as I love his. In any case, I have come to know that single fathers desire stability and would settle down for the sake of their children.
Mariam Ssemakula,
Makerere University student
I am married to a man with children and it is not challenging as long as you respect them and their father. As long as you do not bad-mouth their mother, it is possible for the children to respect you. It is important to show them parental love and not segregate them when you get your own children.
Gorreti Nakatudde, trader
I would not marry such a man because I would not have a say in matters regarding his children. It would be hard to point out their mistakes as I may be misunderstood by the children, my husband and his relatives.
Harriet Nongoola, accountant
Yes, I would, as long as we set down rules of engagement and stick to them. My step-children will also have to understand that I have not come to hurt them.
Lucy Nalwadda, student, 20
Yes I would as long as he loves me and caters for my every need. I would not find it difficult to love his children.