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I can’t sustain an erection
Dear Doctor,
What causes premature ejaculation? How can it be overcome? Can one enjoy sex if it’s not treated?
Henry

I can’t sustain an erection
Dear Doctor,
What causes premature ejaculation? How can it be overcome? Can one enjoy sex if it’s not treated?
Henry

I can’t sustain an erection
Dear Doctor,
What causes premature ejaculation? How can it be overcome? Can one enjoy sex if it’s not treated?
Henry

Dear Henry,
Premature ejaculation is when the man climaxes or releases sperms within two minutes. It is common at the beginning of one’s sex life. Anxiety and fear of failure and being overly excited can cause it.
There are many ways to solve premature ejaculation. When it occurs at the beginning of one’s sex life, one should not despair. With practice, one can learn to prolong sex. In case you are over-excited, wait for a while to regain your erection (‘second round’) when you can continue for longer. A couple can be taught the squeeze technique to be used just before the man ejaculates to delay it. Doctors can use some drugs to help delay ejaculation.
So Henry, seek a solution depending on the cause and enjoy a healthy sex life.

Help, sex is painful!
Dear Doctor,
I got married five months ago. I was a virgin and my first sexual experience was painful. I have a low desire for sex and at times climax quickly. I also just get into a position that enables my wife reach orgasm, but I do not enjoy the sex. Why this feeling?
MMW

Dear MMW,
Sexual desire and satisfaction depend on many factors ranging from your mate, how they turn you on to previous experiences.
Your first sexual experience being painful might have put you off. Also, the fact that you do not get satisfied, while your wife does could be another put off. The premature ejaculation may be related to the lack of satisfaction and anxiety.
One way to resolve the issue could be honestly discussing it with your wife. Tell her what you feel, while guarding against blaming her. This may decrease the sexual anxiety, solve the problem and enrich your life. Then seek a solution together.
Talk to a doctor or a counsellor as well.

Her sexual urge is low
Dear Doctor,
I have been with my girlfriend four years, but she has a low sexual urge. Is this a medical problem?
WEK
 
Dear WEK,
It is true some people have low sex drive. While it is ideal for a couple to have similar sex drive, at times it is not the case and one person has to adapt to the other’s sex drive.
Physical problems that decrease sex drive include anaemia, alcohol abuse, drugs, some hormone conditions,and diseases like diabetes.
Psychological factors include previous bad experiences of sex, depression, sex abuse and not being attracted to one’s mate.
Let your girlfriend see a doctor to rule out any physical problems and to assess any psychological ones. Seek counselling as a couple and you will most likely be able to come to a solution.
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