MOTHERSâ€™ Day is here. Children are busy making cards and buying gifts for their mothers. The media constantly reminds you of this yearâ€™s Mothersâ€™ Day, but, unfortunately, you do not have one. So what do you do? You do not have to spend it feeling depressed and left out.
Agnes Kyotalengerire tells you how to get through the day with cheer.
lThe idea of motherhood is wrapped up in nurturing. When you need to be cared for, appreciated or comforted, you turn to a motherly figure in your life. She could be your grandmother or aunt. Alternatively, she could be a best friend or a mentor. Show this person how much you appreciate her by taking her out or sending her flowers.
lSpending the day with a friendâ€™s family is a good idea. Tag along during their celebration and you will be surprised at how delighted they will be to have you join them.
lAlternatively, you can choose to spend time with your friends who do not have mothers or who are unable to see their mothers.
lYou probably have friends, colleagues or family members who are mothers. You see them juggling time between their work and family. Let them know you notice that by making for them a card, buying flowers or by taking them out for lunch.
lIf your mother died recently, sometimes the best thing to do is to seek out other people who knew her, to talk about her life. Visit her grave or write a journal of the things you loved about her.
lIf you are lonely and sad, do not let the feeling take over you. Participate in your favourite sport, work out at the gym or just go for a walk. It is okay to do whatever makes you feel better, as long as you do not harm anyone, including yourself. But if nothing seems to pull you out of the dumps, you can talk to a counsellor.
lIf you know an older woman in your neighbourhood, visit her and take along a small gift. This will make both of you feel good. Giving is a great gift to the giver. There are many forgotten older people in our communities who would benefit from a little kindness, even from a stranger.
Handling the day without a mother