Dr Love: Should she return the land?
Apostle John Mulinde’s saga has been in the news, wrestling with NRM elections for attention. The man of God spent money to track his wife and caught her in adultery with her hair stylist. Over to the scene:
Apostle John Mulinde’s saga has been in the news, wrestling with NRM elections for attention. The man of God spent money to track his wife and caught her in adultery with her hair stylist. Over to the scene:
It is said that when Mulinde lost his first wife, he chose Sheila Jasmine as a replacement. Unfortunately, Jasmine had a boyfriend and was reluctant, until the apostle gave her a Pajero, UAH 248C and two land titles. I wish I could swear that this had nothing to do with tithe but I don’t have that liberty.
Anyway, the end justifies the means. The two marched down the isle. But about two years later, he caught her cheating with someone else. In her defence, Jasmine said she never loved the apostle and so it should be as good as over. She even said the kid they had was not his.
That almost places the apostle in the shoes of his predecessor, Prophet Hosea of the Old Testament. It is a sad story of broken promises and disappointment, but pregnant with lessons which are my basic concern.
First, we are always told that money cannot buy love, but those who have money think it is the poor man’s cry. Money is an important pillar of love, but as Besigye (or FDC) cannot support IPC single-handedly to win next year’s poll, its success depends on many other factors like UPC’s OO, NRM’s mistakes, or DP’s Mao.
But as history can prove, people have used money to influence their Beloved’s marriage decisions. However, they soon discover that they marry the person, but not their heart. People who do that never go far. Without the heart’s involvement, even the first team performance of a romantically wired, heavy duty, turbo charged sexual performer will not be noticed. Of course you can rectify a marriage that starts on a wrong footing, but if men of God are already failing, why should you want to try?
But the big question is: now that Jasmine is no longer interested, should she return the apostle’s Pajero or land titles or both? Of course she should, you may say. They came as a deal to be Mulinde’s wife and since she has pulled out, she should hand over the instruments of office. Simple!
But others do not agree. They were love gifts, they say. Returning them or not should depend on the woman and not anyone else. And she doesn’t want to return them so, case closed.
We cannot call for justice here because the case is already muddled. Legally, the assets belong to Jasmine, but ethically, the argument may change, depending on the conscious of the protagonists.
However, there is a lesson. You have been told money cannot buy love. But if you think yours can, perhaps you should accompany it with some agreement that binds the recipient to the arrangement. If you give her a plot to become your wife, she should sign a consent form, accepting to only keep the plot for as long as she is your wife.
But remember, if you are in Uganda and she takes off with one Mugisha, such a case can take 10 years to conclude. And probably, by that time, you taken revenge in anger, or committed suicide and the State won’t even wink because your actions do not threaten the regime in power.
It is said that when Mulinde lost his first wife, he chose Sheila Jasmine as a replacement. Unfortunately, Jasmine had a boyfriend and was reluctant, until the apostle gave her a Pajero, UAH 248C and two land titles. I wish I could swear that this had nothing to do with tithe but I don’t have that liberty.
Anyway, the end justifies the means. The two marched down the isle. But about two years later, he caught her cheating with someone else. In her defence, Jasmine said she never loved the apostle and so it should be as good as over. She even said the kid they had was not his.
That almost places the apostle in the shoes of his predecessor, Prophet Hosea of the Old Testament. It is a sad story of broken promises and disappointment, but pregnant with lessons which are my basic concern.
First, we are always told that money cannot buy love, but those who have money think it is the poor man’s cry. Money is an important pillar of love, but as Besigye (or FDC) cannot support IPC single-handedly to win next year’s poll, its success depends on many other factors like UPC’s OO, NRM’s mistakes, or DP’s Mao.
But as history can prove, people have used money to influence their Beloved’s marriage decisions. However, they soon discover that they marry the person, but not their heart. People who do that never go far. Without the heart’s involvement, even the first team performance of a romantically wired, heavy duty, turbo charged sexual performer will not be noticed. Of course you can rectify a marriage that starts on a wrong footing, but if men of God are already failing, why should you want to try?
But the big question is: now that Jasmine is no longer interested, should she return the apostle’s Pajero or land titles or both? Of course she should, you may say. They came as a deal to be Mulinde’s wife and since she has pulled out, she should hand over the instruments of office. Simple!
But others do not agree. They were love gifts, they say. Returning them or not should depend on the woman and not anyone else. And she doesn’t want to return them so, case closed.
We cannot call for justice here because the case is already muddled. Legally, the assets belong to Jasmine, but ethically, the argument may change, depending on the conscious of the protagonists.
However, there is a lesson. You have been told money cannot buy love. But if you think yours can, perhaps you should accompany it with some agreement that binds the recipient to the arrangement. If you give her a plot to become your wife, she should sign a consent form, accepting to only keep the plot for as long as she is your wife.
But remember, if you are in Uganda and she takes off with one Mugisha, such a case can take 10 years to conclude. And probably, by that time, you taken revenge in anger, or committed suicide and the State won’t even wink because your actions do not threaten the regime in power.