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<b>He is a hard-to-please man</b><br>I am in love with a guy who is hard to please. I am trying hard to please him, considering he is an introvert, but to no avail. He is 25 and still at campus. It is supposed to be in third year, but got retakes, which he blames on his demanding job.
He is a hard-to-please man
I am in love with a guy who is hard to please. I am trying hard to please him, considering he is an introvert, but to no avail. He is 25 and still at campus. It is supposed to be in third year, but got retakes, which he blames on his demanding job. He works in a company where his dad has shares. But he hates the job and apparently, they don’t even appreciate his work. He lives with his parents and everything he does is for them yet most of the time they criticise him. How can I help him?
The man you are in love with is going through a season which, probably, is out of his personality as well as his upbringing. You indicated he is an introvert; could this be why he is not outgoing? He could be undergoing a bout of insecurity within himself because he doesn’t seem to get assurance from his parents who could be the people he looks up to. It is likely that he has a low self-esteem. He needs to change his way of thinking, especially towards himself. Encourage him to think positively about himself. You can reinforce this by praising him for something he has done or bringing his best qualities to light. It will help him see that there is something good about himself. Rather than trying to change him, accept him for who he is and build on his strong points.
All the best.
I am in love with a guy who is hard to please. I am trying hard to please him, considering he is an introvert, but to no avail. He is 25 and still at campus. It is supposed to be in third year, but got retakes, which he blames on his demanding job. He works in a company where his dad has shares. But he hates the job and apparently, they don’t even appreciate his work. He lives with his parents and everything he does is for them yet most of the time they criticise him. How can I help him?
The man you are in love with is going through a season which, probably, is out of his personality as well as his upbringing. You indicated he is an introvert; could this be why he is not outgoing? He could be undergoing a bout of insecurity within himself because he doesn’t seem to get assurance from his parents who could be the people he looks up to. It is likely that he has a low self-esteem. He needs to change his way of thinking, especially towards himself. Encourage him to think positively about himself. You can reinforce this by praising him for something he has done or bringing his best qualities to light. It will help him see that there is something good about himself. Rather than trying to change him, accept him for who he is and build on his strong points.
All the best.