Why ladies are now singing romance melodies to old men

By Mariah Nerima

NOWADAYS, many older men are spotted with younger female companions, commonly known as ‘trophy’ companions. Surprisingly, even the young ladies are comfortable being with the older guys. But why are the older guys more sought after by the young ladies?

“It is the natural order,” says Collin. “Women, even the conservative ones, tend to opt for older men as companions because they have more to offer materially than the younger guys.”

Collin adds that the older guys are better established and already have a status, hence provide a sense of security for the younger woman.
But Mary believes the security factor comes in when a young lady is looking for a father figure in her life, which an older man can aptly offer.

The concept of stability in a relationship also arises in this topic. “Older men are more focused and know what they want, hence can be in a stable relationship for a long time,” says Cathy. She believes that younger guys are still prowling and exploring while the older men have been there and are ready to settle in a relationship.

However, other people believe in only one thing, financial security. Older men with ‘trophy’ companions are a well-off type and the younger women in that relationship are there solely for the money.

To echo Collin’s view, older men are already established and have a status, which means the younger women will not have to worry much about finances.

“Older men are more mature,” Kimberley says. “They own up their mistakes and are responsible, something hard to find in younger men. The younger ones are still hyper and enjoying life, hence are more likely to run away from responsibilities.”

Young guys want to have girlfriends, but are not ready for the responsibilities that come with it. An older guy, on the other hand, will most likely take the responsibility, Kimberly adds.

However, many parents today would not approve of their daughters dating an older man. They feel the older men are taking advantage of the vulnerability of their girls.

Much as this is true, the trend may not change soon. “I would never let my daughter date a man old enough to be her father,” admits George.

“They are just leeches who want to suck life out of the girls.”
Cliff, however, disagrees with George. "If my daughter was in love with a man, age would cease to be a factor. What matters most is whether he can take care of my daughter and make her happy. Her happiness is my ultimate joy.”

Bill, 25, views it differently. “Many young guys are unpredictable and are not ready to commit, yet most girls in our age bracket are looking for commitment in relationships.”
“I love my wife despite the 14-year age difference between us," Patrick, 44, admits.

“She makes me feel happier than the women I dated, who were in my age group. I am enjoying my golden years with her and I look forward to each new day as if it is the beginning of my life.”

Carol, 22, is married to 38-year-old Tom, a businessman. She believes he’s the perfect husband and she feels blessed. “At first, I was labelled a ‘gold digger’, but Tom and I proved that we had true love. Compared to my younger boyfriends, Tom made me feel more secure and stable in the relationship.

According to Dr. B. Gordon, an American psychologist, as long as the couple is happy, then he will ‘toast to both of them’.

“At the end of the day, it comes down to the couple because they are the only ones when the lights go off.”