Things to consider
Dec 10, 2010
How important is the function to society? Is it a football match you can leave or will it make you look bad in your village/club/country, etc.
How important is the function to society? Is it a football match you can leave or will it make you look bad in your village/club/country, etc.
How important is the function to you? If it is a political rally in a race you are struggling to win, you may have fewer choices than a meeting chairman who can easily delegate.
Your character and personality. Some people cannot stomach an unresolved issue or pretend when there is a shocking revelation of that magnitude.
The character of your partner. Have you been suspecting this or is it a thunderbolt? Is your partner likely to be violent, apologetic, dangerous etc when you catch them in red-handed situation?
The quality of relationship. Is it one you don’t want to lose? Is it one you are in because of no alternative?
The anxiety about the loss. Are you self sustaining? Can you live alone with some form of comfort?
What is your life strategy? Is it family based, money based, integrity based?
What role is your marriage playing in your philosophy of life?
Do I want to publicise my problem? Going means some people may have to know why you are going and that is going public already
Your likely reaction. If you are not likely to abandon the marriage, you should just keep it secret and discuss or investigate later. But if you are determined to leave the cheat, you may not mind if people know.
Other opportunities of catching them
BY DR LOVE
How important is the function to you? If it is a political rally in a race you are struggling to win, you may have fewer choices than a meeting chairman who can easily delegate.
Your character and personality. Some people cannot stomach an unresolved issue or pretend when there is a shocking revelation of that magnitude.
The character of your partner. Have you been suspecting this or is it a thunderbolt? Is your partner likely to be violent, apologetic, dangerous etc when you catch them in red-handed situation?
The quality of relationship. Is it one you don’t want to lose? Is it one you are in because of no alternative?
The anxiety about the loss. Are you self sustaining? Can you live alone with some form of comfort?
What is your life strategy? Is it family based, money based, integrity based?
What role is your marriage playing in your philosophy of life?
Do I want to publicise my problem? Going means some people may have to know why you are going and that is going public already
Your likely reaction. If you are not likely to abandon the marriage, you should just keep it secret and discuss or investigate later. But if you are determined to leave the cheat, you may not mind if people know.
Other opportunities of catching them
BY DR LOVE