Sex advice earns Gertrude a living
May 15, 2009
Gertrude Mungai, a Kenyan sexologist (senga) was in Uganda recently to teach intimacy and sex lessons. <b>Maureen Nakatudde</b> talked to the lady who began as a relationship columnist in The Nairobi Star, a Kenyan newspaper, about what she does.
Gertrude Mungai, a Kenyan sexologist (senga) was in Uganda recently to teach intimacy and sex lessons. Maureen Nakatudde talked to the lady who began as a relationship columnist in The Nairobi Star, a Kenyan newspaper, about what she does.
What is sexology?
It is the study of human sexuality. A sexologist is what you call senga here.
Why did you pick on such a career?
Why not? It is fun and I love sex.
And your husband?
(Laughs) He loves it too. We experiment every lesson I teach.
How can couples have fun with sex?
Sex can make or break a marriage. Good sex is where both parties are satisfied and enjoy what they do while bad sex is where one person just uses the other person for his or her pleasure. In other words one party enjoys while the other does not. If men feel they are not getting what they expected, they should communicate. Women are willing to do what it takes to please their husbands. And women should not think of sex as a favour they are doing to a man. They should be a one stop shop: wife, lover and tigress in bed.
Isn’t that too much for a woman?
No, it is not. It is better you stop infidelity. In this day, HIV is rampant. If a woman insists on remaining conservative, the man will always seek other women.
But in most cases, men become suspicious when a woman introduces a new technique
True. It is not wise to introduce something new without telling your husband about it. But usually, it is not about technique but preparation. Don’t just come in the dirty clothes you were in the whole day. Have good lingerie and smell good.
You seem to have more lessons for wives than husbands
Men are not very receptive. So I concentrate on wives. When women learn these lessons and make men look as if it is them who initiated the idea in the first place, we shall have fun in the bedroom.
Long relationships eventually lose fire; how can couples re-kindle that passion for sex?
Just re-invent yourselves. Couples should vary their styles and always come up with something different to spice up their sex life. For instance they can have intimacy outside their homes just for a change.
What is sexology?
It is the study of human sexuality. A sexologist is what you call senga here.
Why did you pick on such a career?
Why not? It is fun and I love sex.
And your husband?
(Laughs) He loves it too. We experiment every lesson I teach.
How can couples have fun with sex?
Sex can make or break a marriage. Good sex is where both parties are satisfied and enjoy what they do while bad sex is where one person just uses the other person for his or her pleasure. In other words one party enjoys while the other does not. If men feel they are not getting what they expected, they should communicate. Women are willing to do what it takes to please their husbands. And women should not think of sex as a favour they are doing to a man. They should be a one stop shop: wife, lover and tigress in bed.
Isn’t that too much for a woman?
No, it is not. It is better you stop infidelity. In this day, HIV is rampant. If a woman insists on remaining conservative, the man will always seek other women.
But in most cases, men become suspicious when a woman introduces a new technique
True. It is not wise to introduce something new without telling your husband about it. But usually, it is not about technique but preparation. Don’t just come in the dirty clothes you were in the whole day. Have good lingerie and smell good.
You seem to have more lessons for wives than husbands
Men are not very receptive. So I concentrate on wives. When women learn these lessons and make men look as if it is them who initiated the idea in the first place, we shall have fun in the bedroom.
Long relationships eventually lose fire; how can couples re-kindle that passion for sex?
Just re-invent yourselves. Couples should vary their styles and always come up with something different to spice up their sex life. For instance they can have intimacy outside their homes just for a change.