Does she still love me?

I have a girlfriend with whom I have spent five years. Recently, she started avoiding me. When I call, she does not receive my calls. She can take a month without talking to me. I now doubt her love for me. What can I do?
Ronald

Dear Ronald,
The sudden cut in communication is a clear signal that there is a gap in the relationship. Have you tried to find out why she has suddenly restrained from communicating? Could it be that there is something in the relationship that is making her unhappy? Do you live far from each other? How frequently do you meet apart from talking on phone? Could it be an issue of long separation from each other? Or maybe there could have been a misunderstanding that she is trying to reconcile within herself.

Sometimes when there is a problem between two people, one would try to tread softly because they are not sure of the reaction they will get at the other end.

It might also be that she is thinking about whether or not to carry on with the relationship. Had you made any commitments to each other? It could also be that she is feeling insecure in the relationship, not knowing how far the love that you share will go.

You need to find out what could have caused the drift. You can arrange to meet her instead of talking over the phone. Such issues are best discussed face to face.

Seeing you may be what she needs more than the phone calls. At this point, there is no one to blame for what is happening. Accusing her may make her close up more and yet you need her to open up.