Why are we often lied to by the people we love?
To protect the relationship. The primary responsibility of lovers is durability of the relationship. So everything that threatens the love’s existence will trigger off the defensive instinct which may include lies and deception.
To protect the relationship. The primary responsibility of lovers is durability of the relationship. So everything that threatens the love’s existence will trigger off the defensive instinct which may include lies and deception.
Fear of revenge. Popular US comedian Chris Rock, says when you confesses infidelity, you give your partner a free card to cheat on you because their motivation to keep chaste crumbles.
Advantage: Most relationships begin in blatant dishonesty and cosmetic deceit. Men tend to present themselves as richer than they are, while girls try to appear more graceful than they are.
Nature: For some people lies flow naturally, without any uncomfortable twitch of facial muscles. It may be due to upbringing, environment, career or an intrinsic defence mechanism.
The stage of relationship: It is believed that people lie more at the beginning. as the possibility of staying together deepens, they start owning up. In marriage a great attempt is made at truth except when a partner feels the truth is getting risky. Lies and deception rule the middle ages of marriage till age catches up with the couple, bringing with it more responsibility and honesty.
The ease: The more you are trusted, the less accurate you become. Behavioural scientists call this the truth bias or blind faith. Temptation to lie increases when it becomes more inconvenient to tell the truth vis-a-vis the ease of getting away with a lie.
Dating out of your socio-economic status: When you start a relationship with a false identity, you ring yourself in a cobweb of lies. This happens most often with people who date outside their social strata.
Fear of rejection, punishment and embarrassment
Probing partner: sometimes a partner is obsessed with every detail of the time you are not together, tempting some to lie.
Demanding: With partners who never seem satisfied with explanations, sex, financial demands and answers, people soon discover that lies provide a quick getaway from intricate situations.
Fear of revenge. Popular US comedian Chris Rock, says when you confesses infidelity, you give your partner a free card to cheat on you because their motivation to keep chaste crumbles.
Advantage: Most relationships begin in blatant dishonesty and cosmetic deceit. Men tend to present themselves as richer than they are, while girls try to appear more graceful than they are.
Nature: For some people lies flow naturally, without any uncomfortable twitch of facial muscles. It may be due to upbringing, environment, career or an intrinsic defence mechanism.
The stage of relationship: It is believed that people lie more at the beginning. as the possibility of staying together deepens, they start owning up. In marriage a great attempt is made at truth except when a partner feels the truth is getting risky. Lies and deception rule the middle ages of marriage till age catches up with the couple, bringing with it more responsibility and honesty.
The ease: The more you are trusted, the less accurate you become. Behavioural scientists call this the truth bias or blind faith. Temptation to lie increases when it becomes more inconvenient to tell the truth vis-a-vis the ease of getting away with a lie.
Dating out of your socio-economic status: When you start a relationship with a false identity, you ring yourself in a cobweb of lies. This happens most often with people who date outside their social strata.
Fear of rejection, punishment and embarrassment
Probing partner: sometimes a partner is obsessed with every detail of the time you are not together, tempting some to lie.
Demanding: With partners who never seem satisfied with explanations, sex, financial demands and answers, people soon discover that lies provide a quick getaway from intricate situations.