My experience as a lastborn
Jan 30, 2009
Kathy Sempebwa Turinawe, Human Resources Manager New Vision Publishing and Printing Company Limited. She is married to a second born. She talked to Rehema Aanyu about being a lastborn
Kathy Sempebwa Turinawe, Human Resources Manager New Vision Publishing and Printing Company Limited. She is married to a second born. She talked to Rehema Aanyu about being a lastborn
On her husband…
Compared to myself he has a higher sense of responsibility, which helps me focus. Being the persistent type sometimes we have to make a few compromises to avoid conflict. He believes I am too emotional but I think we view things differently.
Were you favoured?
There was no spoiling me. My mum treated us the same. Everyone did his or her share of work. My dad on the other hand treated me like a last born. He was more accommodating than my mother. I do not have any recollections of him beating me, but my brother and sister do. I easily got money from my dad than my siblings because he was softer when it came to me though not always.
Were you pampered?
Not at all probably because we had a tradition of buying each other gifts. We were raised up to be each other’s friend and I do not remember a time when I got something and my siblings didn’t. The same rules that applied to my siblings applied to me as well. But we were managed differently depending on our character not birth order.
Any good thing that arose from being the last born?
I went to a university of my choice (Rhodes University) in the US. By the time I joined campus, my siblings had graduated. My parents were not paying tuition for anyone at that time so they could afford to take me to whichever university I wished.
Which sibling were you closest to and why?
I was closest to my brother than my sister probably because we are more similar. He was more validating than my elder sister. My sister on the other hand was and still is the serious type while I am more bubbly, giggly and yappy and I think she found me annoying. I think she thought I was not serious or rather not doing right the things she thought I should be doing right. Our relation, however, got better when I finished campus. We were on common ground. She began looking at me as an equal or probably because I acted responsible to her.
Did your relatives call you by any special name?
Not at all. We were all named after our grand parents. I was named after my mother’s mother, my sister after my dad’s mother and my brother after our dad’s dad.
Did your last born status affect the career choice you took?
I think I fit in perfectly in the job I am doing. I am a people person. I love being amongst people, laughing and interacting with them because I am at peace while at it. I am happier amongst people and this has been me even as a child.
Last borns are attention seekers….
No I am not. I am the most out going at home and very persistent. I struggle and struggle until I get what I want if it is the right thing for me.
On her husband…
Compared to myself he has a higher sense of responsibility, which helps me focus. Being the persistent type sometimes we have to make a few compromises to avoid conflict. He believes I am too emotional but I think we view things differently.
Were you favoured?
There was no spoiling me. My mum treated us the same. Everyone did his or her share of work. My dad on the other hand treated me like a last born. He was more accommodating than my mother. I do not have any recollections of him beating me, but my brother and sister do. I easily got money from my dad than my siblings because he was softer when it came to me though not always.
Were you pampered?
Not at all probably because we had a tradition of buying each other gifts. We were raised up to be each other’s friend and I do not remember a time when I got something and my siblings didn’t. The same rules that applied to my siblings applied to me as well. But we were managed differently depending on our character not birth order.
Any good thing that arose from being the last born?
I went to a university of my choice (Rhodes University) in the US. By the time I joined campus, my siblings had graduated. My parents were not paying tuition for anyone at that time so they could afford to take me to whichever university I wished.
Which sibling were you closest to and why?
I was closest to my brother than my sister probably because we are more similar. He was more validating than my elder sister. My sister on the other hand was and still is the serious type while I am more bubbly, giggly and yappy and I think she found me annoying. I think she thought I was not serious or rather not doing right the things she thought I should be doing right. Our relation, however, got better when I finished campus. We were on common ground. She began looking at me as an equal or probably because I acted responsible to her.
Did your relatives call you by any special name?
Not at all. We were all named after our grand parents. I was named after my mother’s mother, my sister after my dad’s mother and my brother after our dad’s dad.
Did your last born status affect the career choice you took?
I think I fit in perfectly in the job I am doing. I am a people person. I love being amongst people, laughing and interacting with them because I am at peace while at it. I am happier amongst people and this has been me even as a child.
Last borns are attention seekers….
No I am not. I am the most out going at home and very persistent. I struggle and struggle until I get what I want if it is the right thing for me.