Dealing with a bad kisser
Feb 06, 2009
So, that new guy or girl in your life is just perfect. Kind, caring, fun, exciting, he or she has it all.
So, that new guy or girl in your life is just perfect. Kind, caring, fun, exciting, he or she has it all.
Except - Oh, what a terrible kisser! From the guy who draws blood with every kiss to the girl that makes that weird clicking sound when you lock lips, bad kissers are everywhere.
For many of us, kissing is a very important part of a relationship and, unfortunately, the inability to deliver a passionate kiss can be a deal breaker, no matter how great the person is.
Luckily, most bad kissers can become good kissers if you have a little patience, tact, and courage.
1. Figure out what it is that you don’t like in a kiss and dont do it to your partner. This can be difficult, because we generally like different kinds of kisses at different times.
Sometimes, the person is not really a bad kisser, you are just used to something else.
Especially when people get out of long-term relationships and start anew, they may miss the way their ex kissed them. Just because somebody doesn’t kiss you exactly like your old flame did, however, doesn’t mean that he or she isn't good at kissing.
Keep an open mind and, as long as you’re not disgusted, give it a little time. You may come to like the way your new partner kisses.
2. Try something new. Ask your partner if they would like to ‘try something different’ but really show them how you like to be kissed. This works if you want to be subtle and not hurt your partners feelings
3. Set a good example. Try to kiss the person like you want to be kissed. Kissing is an interactive experience, and each partner needs to follow the other’s lead at some time.
When it’s your turn to lead, make it count. This can be an especially useful technique if your partner doesn’t have much kissing experience or isn’t sure he or she is doing it right.
4. Give your partner signals. When your partner kisses you in a way that you really don’t like, use body language to communicate and hope he or she gets the hint.
Even more importantly, when your partner kisses you the way you like, let him or her know. Moan softly, hold them closer, melt in his or her arms, send out signals that he or she is getting it right.
5. Have a talk. When subtle hints fail, it’s time to bring it out in the open. This is an uncomfortable talk to have, but if you care about the relationship, you have to do it.
Communication is essential to any relationship, so don’t be afraid to tell the person how you feel. Be tactful about it, though, and compliment your partner on what he or she does right.
Except - Oh, what a terrible kisser! From the guy who draws blood with every kiss to the girl that makes that weird clicking sound when you lock lips, bad kissers are everywhere.
For many of us, kissing is a very important part of a relationship and, unfortunately, the inability to deliver a passionate kiss can be a deal breaker, no matter how great the person is.
Luckily, most bad kissers can become good kissers if you have a little patience, tact, and courage.
1. Figure out what it is that you don’t like in a kiss and dont do it to your partner. This can be difficult, because we generally like different kinds of kisses at different times.
Sometimes, the person is not really a bad kisser, you are just used to something else.
Especially when people get out of long-term relationships and start anew, they may miss the way their ex kissed them. Just because somebody doesn’t kiss you exactly like your old flame did, however, doesn’t mean that he or she isn't good at kissing.
Keep an open mind and, as long as you’re not disgusted, give it a little time. You may come to like the way your new partner kisses.
2. Try something new. Ask your partner if they would like to ‘try something different’ but really show them how you like to be kissed. This works if you want to be subtle and not hurt your partners feelings
3. Set a good example. Try to kiss the person like you want to be kissed. Kissing is an interactive experience, and each partner needs to follow the other’s lead at some time.
When it’s your turn to lead, make it count. This can be an especially useful technique if your partner doesn’t have much kissing experience or isn’t sure he or she is doing it right.
4. Give your partner signals. When your partner kisses you in a way that you really don’t like, use body language to communicate and hope he or she gets the hint.
Even more importantly, when your partner kisses you the way you like, let him or her know. Moan softly, hold them closer, melt in his or her arms, send out signals that he or she is getting it right.
5. Have a talk. When subtle hints fail, it’s time to bring it out in the open. This is an uncomfortable talk to have, but if you care about the relationship, you have to do it.
Communication is essential to any relationship, so don’t be afraid to tell the person how you feel. Be tactful about it, though, and compliment your partner on what he or she does right.