Dear auntie
I have a girlfriend who doesn’t want to introduce me to friends as her lover but she feels jealous whenever I try to date other girls. Does this girl really love me?
Emperor

Dear Emperor,
There must be a lot more happening in your relationship that you haven’t revealed. There are chances that your girlfriend is not happy in this relationship. You would only expect her to feel proud of you if your relationship was working well. It also seems that your objectives are not the same. Maybe she is out for fun and not a long-term commitment. It might be tempting for you to seek solace from another relationship, but that is only a short-term strategy. Before you date other girls, discuss your feelings with your girlfriend.

Dear auntie,
I live abroad and my fiancé lives in Africa. We are getting married very soon. Although I spare some time to call and send him emails, he does not communicate with me as much. He gives me excuses that he does not have money to call me. He also does not reply my emails. We have known each other for seven years, but he has never bought me any gift. Should I marry this guy or do I look for someone else?
P.O.

Dear P.O,
Relationship is about meeting each other’s emotional needs. However, long distance makes this difficult hence rendering both of you vulnerable to temptation. You need to consider investing more quality time in this relationship if you plan to marry him. Did you know that the best gift your boyfriend can give you is his quality time? Maturity of a relationship is determined by the quality time spent together and how well you know each other. Marriage decision still remains with you but you can only make it depending on how well you understand him.