How soon should you remarry?
Last Saturday, Intimate carried an interview of Pastor Steven Senfuma, who married Esther, eight months after his late wife had died in an accident. Senfuma, of United Christian Centre, Kasubi, said according to the Bible, when someone is buried, all ties are broken. He said The Bible permits mourni
Last Saturday, Intimate carried an interview of Pastor Steven Senfuma, who married Esther, eight months after his late wife had died in an accident. Senfuma, of United Christian Centre, Kasubi, said according to the Bible, when someone is buried, all ties are broken. He said The Bible permits mourning for 30 days. And from the 31st day, you are free to re-marry.
We received mixed reactions on how long a person should take before remarrying after the death of a wife. Harriet Birungi and Maurine Nakatudde hit the streets and found out
Richard Wamala, 32, instructor
Ddembe Driving School
Five years. I need time to mourn my wife. Secondly, I need a lot of time to study the new woman and establish compatibility, so that I do not regret my decision. Finding a woman with a similar character as my wife is not easy. Many women are materialistic and will only care about what you have. In the meantime, I would find a care taker for my children, preferably one who is too old to tempt me to bed her.
Birali Muyinda, driver Standard Chartered Bank
Two and a half years. I need time to clear her out of my system, and give my children time to come to terms with their mother’s death. Then I would find another lady, of my tribe and religion, for easy adjustment.
Wafula Ogutu, spokesman Forum for Democratic Change
I cannot put a time when a man should remarry, because falling in love has no specified time table. And relationships progress at different rates that remarrying would depend on how the two feel about each other, which may be soon or take some time. However, if a man has lost a spouse, you need time to mourn and in case you have children, you will to give them time to overcome the loss of their mother. So remarrying with in a year is not suitable.
Bosco Kikawa, motorcycle trader, Ndeeba
Six months. I need such a long time to find someone who can fit in my wife’s shoes and also to be a mother to my children. In the meantime, I would take the children to boarding school or get my sister to help out.
Twaha Ssebuliba, businessman
I may decide not to remarry at all. I fear no woman can measure up to my wife.
Isaac Mwesige, hotel owner
I cannot marry again. Women are a headache. I would just look after my children.
Joseph Sekandi 39, grocery shop attendant
Two years. You don’t want to give the impression that you didn’t love your wife. It would seem that you conspired in her death.
John Mukasa, 37, farmer
Two months. Looking after children and the home can force me to marry.
Juma Kisule, 35, journalist
40 days. My faith prescribes a Juma for forty days before I can marry again.
Kamu Napandu, 40, Driver
Three years. I would need to show how much her death has hurt me. It also takes time to get a good wife. The wrong woman can mistreat the children.
Abubaker Kato, 31, businessman
Two months. After all, if it was me who died, I doubt if she would wait for me to rot.
Charles Semuto, 73, butcher
I spend one year. Why wait any longer?
Jamil Kalanda, businessman
One year. It is stated in the Islamic Sharia law. I would have studied another woman who would be a mother to my children and help me overcome my wife’s death.
Gilbert Kadilo, Senior Public Relations officer Makerere University
The relationship the man had with the wife influences how soon the man can move on. If the two had a very good relationship, the man may take long before remarrying. Putting a time frame for when a man should remarry is unrealistic. Nevertheless, it varies from one man to another, which in most cases is influenced by different factors.
We received mixed reactions on how long a person should take before remarrying after the death of a wife. Harriet Birungi and Maurine Nakatudde hit the streets and found out
Richard Wamala, 32, instructor
Ddembe Driving School
Five years. I need time to mourn my wife. Secondly, I need a lot of time to study the new woman and establish compatibility, so that I do not regret my decision. Finding a woman with a similar character as my wife is not easy. Many women are materialistic and will only care about what you have. In the meantime, I would find a care taker for my children, preferably one who is too old to tempt me to bed her.
Birali Muyinda, driver Standard Chartered Bank
Two and a half years. I need time to clear her out of my system, and give my children time to come to terms with their mother’s death. Then I would find another lady, of my tribe and religion, for easy adjustment.
Wafula Ogutu, spokesman Forum for Democratic Change
I cannot put a time when a man should remarry, because falling in love has no specified time table. And relationships progress at different rates that remarrying would depend on how the two feel about each other, which may be soon or take some time. However, if a man has lost a spouse, you need time to mourn and in case you have children, you will to give them time to overcome the loss of their mother. So remarrying with in a year is not suitable.
Bosco Kikawa, motorcycle trader, Ndeeba
Six months. I need such a long time to find someone who can fit in my wife’s shoes and also to be a mother to my children. In the meantime, I would take the children to boarding school or get my sister to help out.
Twaha Ssebuliba, businessman
I may decide not to remarry at all. I fear no woman can measure up to my wife.
Isaac Mwesige, hotel owner
I cannot marry again. Women are a headache. I would just look after my children.
Joseph Sekandi 39, grocery shop attendant
Two years. You don’t want to give the impression that you didn’t love your wife. It would seem that you conspired in her death.
John Mukasa, 37, farmer
Two months. Looking after children and the home can force me to marry.
Juma Kisule, 35, journalist
40 days. My faith prescribes a Juma for forty days before I can marry again.
Kamu Napandu, 40, Driver
Three years. I would need to show how much her death has hurt me. It also takes time to get a good wife. The wrong woman can mistreat the children.
Abubaker Kato, 31, businessman
Two months. After all, if it was me who died, I doubt if she would wait for me to rot.
Charles Semuto, 73, butcher
I spend one year. Why wait any longer?
Jamil Kalanda, businessman
One year. It is stated in the Islamic Sharia law. I would have studied another woman who would be a mother to my children and help me overcome my wife’s death.
Gilbert Kadilo, Senior Public Relations officer Makerere University
The relationship the man had with the wife influences how soon the man can move on. If the two had a very good relationship, the man may take long before remarrying. Putting a time frame for when a man should remarry is unrealistic. Nevertheless, it varies from one man to another, which in most cases is influenced by different factors.