I owe my self-esteem, confidence to dad

Jun 10, 2009

Father’s Day is a day of commemoration and celebration of Dad, a time for letting your dad know how much you love him. Strengthen the ties that bind and make his day extra special with a message straight from your heart.

Father’s Day is a day of commemoration and celebration of Dad, a time for letting your dad know how much you love him. Strengthen the ties that bind and make his day extra special with a message straight from your heart.

It is a day, not only to honour your father, but all men who have acted as a father-figure in your life — whether as stepfathers, uncles, grandfathers or “big brothers”. The day falls on the third Sunday of June every year. Roses are the Father’s Day flowers; red to be worn for a father who is still alive and white if your father has passed on.

By Kate Schoeman

I am the first born and only daughter. So naturally I was raised a real daddy’s girl.

My father is the man I have learnt most of my life lessons from.

I learnt how to be independent and unique. He taught me that just because I was a girl, did not mean I could not be enthusiastic about rugby, cars and motorbikes.

He even supported me when I decided that I wanted to go from watching rugby, to actually playing rugby.

He never treated my opinions as less important when discussing sports, even when in the company of other men who thought differently. I remember as a little girl, working in the garden with him, pulling out weeds and working up a sweat.

I remember sitting on his lap watching rugby. I remember standing with him and the other men while we BBQd real meat and talked about sports.

I also learnt another very important lesson from my dad. I learnt that if you mess up in life, if you make a mistake, there is value in asking for forgiveness and turning your life around.

My dad may not have always “gotten it right”, but he showed me that a man should not only respect me, but be my friend and treat me like a queen. And, I may not have always gotten things right either. But because of the example my father and mother set for me, I am marrying an incredible man who embodies all the qualities I admire in my father, and more.

It is always a difficult time when daddy’s girl grows up and another man comes into her life to care for her. Although that time has come for me and I am ready to move forward, I will always be daddy’s girl.

I pray that when I have a daughter, she will experience that very special bond with her dad.
Happy Father’s Day daddy. Even though you are so far away, I miss you and think of you.

The writer is the media coordinator Watoto, Kampala, Uganda

Send your articles and photographs honouring that special man who has been a father-figure to you, to: The Features Editor, The New Vision, P.O.Box 9815, Kampala, or email features@newvision.co.ug; or a text message to 0715911654 or 0783258644 to reach us not later than June 17

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Walk me through
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Walk me through the dark place because in your hands lies the power to do so.
From heaven above you were given the golden sword.
To steward all the riches and everything that dwell upon the earth.

Your hands are magical, for they bring laughter on mama’s face when sadness eats her up.
Fear may grip her and tears roll down to her beautiful face, your hugs bring her comfort.
The king of our home you are and so she is the queen.
The master with a golden hand to bring joy to our home with a beautiful touch.

Walk me home through the dark place because in your hands lies power to do so.
Teach me the way I should go, that I may be a reflection of you in the days to come.
Today is the day to remember you before the darkest hour, that time when my eyes will never see you again.

When roses are laid on your resting place
Would you pass on the legacy before the night comes.
Teach me how to hold the golden sword in my hand, that mama may never be a lonely woman after all.
I don’t want to be like the T.V heroes who live in abundance outside character.
Maybe it’s something their fathers never taught them!

I see the dark clouds coming, sunydays disappearing, the storms appearing,
But I am not afraid because a hero of your making I will always be.
In the world of separate views, I will stand as a man of integrity because that’s what you are.
So walk me through the dark place and will live on to the very best.

Talk to me about the journey of life that i may not be surprised but uplifted. Saved not destroyed,
Strong not weak,
Merciful not rude, because forever you will always be a father to me
The keys to my hidden place.

Patrick Mwesigwa

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