Dry pockets turn the heat on
Jul 22, 2009
Don’t underestimate the power of poverty on love and intimacy. People who lack adequate resources are very innovative in love as the rich leave it to their money to do the talking.
Hilary Bainemigisha
Don’t underestimate the power of poverty on love and intimacy. People who lack adequate resources are very innovative in love as the rich leave it to their money to do the talking.
Didn’t they say poverty and financial troubles make men sexually active? Isn’t that why poor people are producing many children and marrying many women?
Poverty actually turns me into a philosopher, I must warn you, when you don’t drive to town on a Saturday evening because that fuel in the tank is supposed to take you the whole week, you begin to think your way to discoveries.
The one I made on Monday was that we have had fewer philosophers in the country because pork and beer rudely interfere with the thinking processes. Then on Tuesday, I discovered that the credit crunch could actually be turned into a useful tool of intimacy.
And how does that happen? The credit crunch, mounting debts, layoffs and shrinking shopping may not seem like natural aphrodisiacs, but they are a signpost to better intimacy where couples get time to appreciate each other more.
It is too early for empirical studies on the effect of the credit crunch on our bedroom performance but my inner sense wants me to take the words of my friend seriously. He swears that he had not noticed that his wife was a star in couch romance till he stayed home last weekend to watch a movie with her. Another wife was surprised when her husband eventually called her ‘honey’. You cannot underestimate the power of an extended one-on-one opportunity.
Tightening budgets means more time at home and more intimacy. And even if, for some people, more time together breeds more squabbles, there is a way intimacy glances back after the dust has settled.
You can never underestimate the guilt-propelled sex that crops out of an evening gone bad. But generally, togetherness bears physical intimacy, which is also a great way to relieve anxiety, tension and stress.
Like the Americans would say, some couples may be turning off the television and turning to one another. An Italian research showed that people who watch more TV have less sex.
That when the TV is removed from the bedroom, couples’ sex lives improve. You may want to try limiting TV time to save on power, you never know what indirect rewards you may harvest along the way.
One of the victims of the credit crunch is fun spending. Today, after the third litre of beer, your brain shouts out over the din of the drunken body to tell you that you will be buying the next beer at your own peril.
Anxiety about spending money on frivolous items is very vital in zero grazing. Suddenly, it feels guilty to spend sh100,000 on an evening just because you smell sex by dawn.
If you are a responsible man indulging in fun pleasures like beaching, horsing, travelling, expensive hotels, etc (items which normally define wild intimacy with a new girlfriend), start filling you with guilt. You start valuing your expenditures like an auditor, which is good for the family, God and our statistics.
The result when you forego lavish evenings or nights-out is to go in for affordable pastimes like renting a movie, cuddling on the couch or taking a walk, all of which stimulate bonding at home.
The good news is that new girlfriends hate to hear anything to do with credit crunch. We expect many still births in that area and for that, praise God.
Out of work, fear of outings bring leisure innovations like the do-it-yourself exercises; jogging, walking and all those we can still remember from our PE lessons several decades ago. Exercise is, by the way, one of the recommended ways of dealing with stress and anxiety. And right within the layers is a hidden advantage: Exercise is also a great libido-booster and a great part of sexual health. It increases blood flow to respective districts and predisposes you to sexual arousal. Praise God!
I know loss of a job is a slap to your dignity and may present a couple of problems to grapple with. But that too is an opportunity to identify who really is your friend indeed.
Lack of monetary alternatives allows you to rediscover the non-material values in life, which are certainly the stuff of love and romance.
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug
Don’t underestimate the power of poverty on love and intimacy. People who lack adequate resources are very innovative in love as the rich leave it to their money to do the talking.
Didn’t they say poverty and financial troubles make men sexually active? Isn’t that why poor people are producing many children and marrying many women?
Poverty actually turns me into a philosopher, I must warn you, when you don’t drive to town on a Saturday evening because that fuel in the tank is supposed to take you the whole week, you begin to think your way to discoveries.
The one I made on Monday was that we have had fewer philosophers in the country because pork and beer rudely interfere with the thinking processes. Then on Tuesday, I discovered that the credit crunch could actually be turned into a useful tool of intimacy.
And how does that happen? The credit crunch, mounting debts, layoffs and shrinking shopping may not seem like natural aphrodisiacs, but they are a signpost to better intimacy where couples get time to appreciate each other more.
It is too early for empirical studies on the effect of the credit crunch on our bedroom performance but my inner sense wants me to take the words of my friend seriously. He swears that he had not noticed that his wife was a star in couch romance till he stayed home last weekend to watch a movie with her. Another wife was surprised when her husband eventually called her ‘honey’. You cannot underestimate the power of an extended one-on-one opportunity.
Tightening budgets means more time at home and more intimacy. And even if, for some people, more time together breeds more squabbles, there is a way intimacy glances back after the dust has settled.
You can never underestimate the guilt-propelled sex that crops out of an evening gone bad. But generally, togetherness bears physical intimacy, which is also a great way to relieve anxiety, tension and stress.
Like the Americans would say, some couples may be turning off the television and turning to one another. An Italian research showed that people who watch more TV have less sex.
That when the TV is removed from the bedroom, couples’ sex lives improve. You may want to try limiting TV time to save on power, you never know what indirect rewards you may harvest along the way.
One of the victims of the credit crunch is fun spending. Today, after the third litre of beer, your brain shouts out over the din of the drunken body to tell you that you will be buying the next beer at your own peril.
Anxiety about spending money on frivolous items is very vital in zero grazing. Suddenly, it feels guilty to spend sh100,000 on an evening just because you smell sex by dawn.
If you are a responsible man indulging in fun pleasures like beaching, horsing, travelling, expensive hotels, etc (items which normally define wild intimacy with a new girlfriend), start filling you with guilt. You start valuing your expenditures like an auditor, which is good for the family, God and our statistics.
The result when you forego lavish evenings or nights-out is to go in for affordable pastimes like renting a movie, cuddling on the couch or taking a walk, all of which stimulate bonding at home.
The good news is that new girlfriends hate to hear anything to do with credit crunch. We expect many still births in that area and for that, praise God.
Out of work, fear of outings bring leisure innovations like the do-it-yourself exercises; jogging, walking and all those we can still remember from our PE lessons several decades ago. Exercise is, by the way, one of the recommended ways of dealing with stress and anxiety. And right within the layers is a hidden advantage: Exercise is also a great libido-booster and a great part of sexual health. It increases blood flow to respective districts and predisposes you to sexual arousal. Praise God!
I know loss of a job is a slap to your dignity and may present a couple of problems to grapple with. But that too is an opportunity to identify who really is your friend indeed.
Lack of monetary alternatives allows you to rediscover the non-material values in life, which are certainly the stuff of love and romance.
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug