Be a man, learn to say no
Oct 15, 2009
Listen to this: If your father is a bodaboda rider and happens to live in Namulonge in the year of our Lord 2009, he is more likely to beat your mother often and to abandon you because he is busy defiling other people’s children and running away from ju
Listen to this: If your father is a bodaboda rider and happens to live in Namulonge in the year of our Lord 2009, he is more likely to beat your mother often and to abandon you because he is busy defiling other people’s children and running away from justice.
A recent study by Concern for Children Empowerment, a Christian NGO active in Wakiso, which revealed that the problems of cyclists in the area are not necessarily about traffic police and their obsession with helmets. Most cases of child neglect and domestic violence they traced ended their trail on Bodaboda cyclists!
Bodaboda cyclists! Instead of just ferrying passengers for money, they are not only ruining other homes with spying, rumour mongering and infiltration, they are also failing to manage their own! Are they also behaving like traditional leaders who cannot stick to their roles and often stray into politics? Do they have any defence?
Yes they do. Elisa, one of the riders, told our reporter: “Many women refuse to pay after we have transported them at night. Instead, they offer sex and at that time we have no condoms. We end up making them pregnant and we are not ready for the children!â€
Oh my God! No wonder Concern for Children Empowerment decided these people needed training. They gathered them for a weekend workshop and by the end of it, Elisa was vowing he would henceforth be a responsible person. By which he meant: “I will always carry my condoms so that next time she refuses to pay, I can use them!â€
Have these people learnt anything? Before they refer matters of those who cannot pay to the condoms, there is an important lesson they must learn: It is not easy for men to walk away from a sex opportunity. But those who do are the heroes, the brave, the real men.
Men have an unfortunate manufacturer’s error that tries to forbid them from running away from a sex opportunity. It practically looks them in the eye and threatens: You Elisa! How can you run away from sex? Are you a man? Your colleagues will definitely laugh at you! You will live to regret this!
And like with NSSF money where most men have no resistance against the temptation of loads of money waiting to be eaten or gambled, the idea of a total man is the one who scores with every pass. How would God hear it that Jamwa went to a headmaster to plead that his child be allowed to study on banja as he mobilised for money?! How would God hear it that a willing woman slept in your bed and you still kept your dogs zipped up? Those are the arguments.
Whenever a girl tries to be nice, the male ego declares: That is a sex opportunity; ignore it at your own peril. Thus any SMS with a word ‘dia’, any request for a lift, any promise of a visit are all deemed very clear signals to Elisa to check his pockets for condoms. And if he has none, just go on as long as the resultant products are the responsibility of the woman who failed to protect herself. That explains the many cases of date rapes that go unreported. Many men live in the fear of being seen as running away from a sex opportunity.
Who is greater; the one who resists the temptation or the one who breaks down and yields? The one who does what everyone finds easy to do or one who resists the wave of opportunity to turn his back to sex?
Shape up Bodaboda riders and your fellow men: You can actually achieve a lot, including a longer life, by relying more on your will power to say no than the condom in your pocket.
Of course I am not talking about your domestic responsibility at home.
A recent study by Concern for Children Empowerment, a Christian NGO active in Wakiso, which revealed that the problems of cyclists in the area are not necessarily about traffic police and their obsession with helmets. Most cases of child neglect and domestic violence they traced ended their trail on Bodaboda cyclists!
Bodaboda cyclists! Instead of just ferrying passengers for money, they are not only ruining other homes with spying, rumour mongering and infiltration, they are also failing to manage their own! Are they also behaving like traditional leaders who cannot stick to their roles and often stray into politics? Do they have any defence?
Yes they do. Elisa, one of the riders, told our reporter: “Many women refuse to pay after we have transported them at night. Instead, they offer sex and at that time we have no condoms. We end up making them pregnant and we are not ready for the children!â€
Oh my God! No wonder Concern for Children Empowerment decided these people needed training. They gathered them for a weekend workshop and by the end of it, Elisa was vowing he would henceforth be a responsible person. By which he meant: “I will always carry my condoms so that next time she refuses to pay, I can use them!â€
Have these people learnt anything? Before they refer matters of those who cannot pay to the condoms, there is an important lesson they must learn: It is not easy for men to walk away from a sex opportunity. But those who do are the heroes, the brave, the real men.
Men have an unfortunate manufacturer’s error that tries to forbid them from running away from a sex opportunity. It practically looks them in the eye and threatens: You Elisa! How can you run away from sex? Are you a man? Your colleagues will definitely laugh at you! You will live to regret this!
And like with NSSF money where most men have no resistance against the temptation of loads of money waiting to be eaten or gambled, the idea of a total man is the one who scores with every pass. How would God hear it that Jamwa went to a headmaster to plead that his child be allowed to study on banja as he mobilised for money?! How would God hear it that a willing woman slept in your bed and you still kept your dogs zipped up? Those are the arguments.
Whenever a girl tries to be nice, the male ego declares: That is a sex opportunity; ignore it at your own peril. Thus any SMS with a word ‘dia’, any request for a lift, any promise of a visit are all deemed very clear signals to Elisa to check his pockets for condoms. And if he has none, just go on as long as the resultant products are the responsibility of the woman who failed to protect herself. That explains the many cases of date rapes that go unreported. Many men live in the fear of being seen as running away from a sex opportunity.
Who is greater; the one who resists the temptation or the one who breaks down and yields? The one who does what everyone finds easy to do or one who resists the wave of opportunity to turn his back to sex?
Shape up Bodaboda riders and your fellow men: You can actually achieve a lot, including a longer life, by relying more on your will power to say no than the condom in your pocket.
Of course I am not talking about your domestic responsibility at home.