My boyfriend wants me to abort
I have related with my boyfriend for five years. Four months ago, in my last semester, he asked to move in with him. A few weeks ago, I found out that I was pregnant. When I informed him about it, he said I either abort or leave his place.
I have related with my boyfriend for five years. Four months ago, in my last semester, he asked to move in with him. A few weeks ago, I found out that I was pregnant. When I informed him about it, he said I either abort or leave his place. I am worried about an abortion and it is equally hard for me to go back to my aunt’s place. I cannot face her to tell her what is wrong. Besides, I need to finish my studies.
MK
Making choices in life is not easy. Sometimes, it gets us to where we want to be and other times, it throws us into a pit. The decision you are faced with must be a tough one. Pregnancy brings a lot of anxiety to an expectant mother whether it was wanted or unwanted. Your boyfriend has expressed fear of the responsibility of the pregnancy.
Abortion may look like a quick way to get rid of the problems you are facing, but it may instead bring you additional problems. This is a decision that no one should force you into. Undergoing an abortion may clear you of public opinion but within you, you are likely to nurse feelings of guilt and it can bring you multiple health problems.
The two of you need to talk. You need to think through the several options available to you as you make a decision. Express your fears of abortion to your partner because not only will you be getting rid of the pregnancy, but it could have adverse effects for you as well.
However, you need to prepare yourself for whatever outcome even if it means having to move out and live on your own.
Talk to your aunt about it. If you find it challenging, find someone who can do it on your behalf. Talk to a counsellor as well. Counselling is part of the support you need to go through this.
In the meantime, you need to pay attention to prenatal care for you and the unborn child.
Whatever you choose should be what is best for you and the baby. All the best.
MK
Making choices in life is not easy. Sometimes, it gets us to where we want to be and other times, it throws us into a pit. The decision you are faced with must be a tough one. Pregnancy brings a lot of anxiety to an expectant mother whether it was wanted or unwanted. Your boyfriend has expressed fear of the responsibility of the pregnancy.
Abortion may look like a quick way to get rid of the problems you are facing, but it may instead bring you additional problems. This is a decision that no one should force you into. Undergoing an abortion may clear you of public opinion but within you, you are likely to nurse feelings of guilt and it can bring you multiple health problems.
The two of you need to talk. You need to think through the several options available to you as you make a decision. Express your fears of abortion to your partner because not only will you be getting rid of the pregnancy, but it could have adverse effects for you as well.
However, you need to prepare yourself for whatever outcome even if it means having to move out and live on your own.
Talk to your aunt about it. If you find it challenging, find someone who can do it on your behalf. Talk to a counsellor as well. Counselling is part of the support you need to go through this.
In the meantime, you need to pay attention to prenatal care for you and the unborn child.
Whatever you choose should be what is best for you and the baby. All the best.