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Jan 11, 2008
<b>Dear aunt,<br>I am a muganda girl aged 15. Even my mother is a muganda. There is this strange kiganda culture that requires an aunt, a mother or a grandmother to teach a girl how to pull some part of the vagina. I don’t find this practice necessary or helpful at all.
Dear aunt,
I am a muganda girl aged 15. Even my mother is a muganda. There is this strange kiganda culture that requires an aunt, a mother or a grandmother to teach a girl how to pull some part of the vagina. I don’t find this practice necessary or helpful at all. Will this practice help me when it comes to giving birth or sexual intercourse? Please help me out; I am hanging on a thin wire here.
J.A
Dear J.A,
Different tribes have different cultural practices. Pulling of some part of the vagina is a cultural practice that the Baganda observe. There is no scientific evidence showing that this practice helps girls while giving birth or during sexual intercourse. Since those who don’t practice this equally enjoy sex and give birth, lack of it would not mean you cannot enjoy sex or give birth. This is something that involves your body and you have a right of choice. Your decision, however, should not be based on the fact that the practice will help you during childbirth or sexual intercourse. It is just a cultural practice like any other.
Dear Aunt
I had a girl friend whom I trusted but surprisingly she met her ‘Mr. right’ and moved on. After sometime, ‘Mr. right’ proved to be ‘Mr. wrong’ and she had to quit. This lady is now trying to make her way back to my life. She makes endless phone calls begging me to give her a second chance. At times, I don’t pick her calls but when I pick them I don’t have kind words for her. What do I do?Â
Paul
Dear Paul,
It must be hurting to be betrayed by a lady you once loved. This kind of experience must have left you feeling worthless and bitter. You have lost trust you once had for her and you are still grappling with the painful emotions. There are chances that she might be using you to soothe her wounds especially after her breakup with ‘Mr. right.’ This might not mean that she has revised her standards and that you are her ‘Mr. right.’ Like any other person, she might be trying to get a soft landing after a breakup. Do you have any guarantee this time that she will not move on after meeting a ‘better catch?’ The decision to rekindle the relationship or call it quits remains with you. If you choose to rekindle the affair, bear in mind the possible risks. If you feel fed up, you need to communicate your position without hurting her feelings. You cannot communicate by dodging her phone calls.
Send your questions to
intimate@newvision.co.ug or
P.O. BOX 9815 Kampala
I am a muganda girl aged 15. Even my mother is a muganda. There is this strange kiganda culture that requires an aunt, a mother or a grandmother to teach a girl how to pull some part of the vagina. I don’t find this practice necessary or helpful at all. Will this practice help me when it comes to giving birth or sexual intercourse? Please help me out; I am hanging on a thin wire here.
J.A
Dear J.A,
Different tribes have different cultural practices. Pulling of some part of the vagina is a cultural practice that the Baganda observe. There is no scientific evidence showing that this practice helps girls while giving birth or during sexual intercourse. Since those who don’t practice this equally enjoy sex and give birth, lack of it would not mean you cannot enjoy sex or give birth. This is something that involves your body and you have a right of choice. Your decision, however, should not be based on the fact that the practice will help you during childbirth or sexual intercourse. It is just a cultural practice like any other.
Dear Aunt
I had a girl friend whom I trusted but surprisingly she met her ‘Mr. right’ and moved on. After sometime, ‘Mr. right’ proved to be ‘Mr. wrong’ and she had to quit. This lady is now trying to make her way back to my life. She makes endless phone calls begging me to give her a second chance. At times, I don’t pick her calls but when I pick them I don’t have kind words for her. What do I do?Â
Paul
Dear Paul,
It must be hurting to be betrayed by a lady you once loved. This kind of experience must have left you feeling worthless and bitter. You have lost trust you once had for her and you are still grappling with the painful emotions. There are chances that she might be using you to soothe her wounds especially after her breakup with ‘Mr. right.’ This might not mean that she has revised her standards and that you are her ‘Mr. right.’ Like any other person, she might be trying to get a soft landing after a breakup. Do you have any guarantee this time that she will not move on after meeting a ‘better catch?’ The decision to rekindle the relationship or call it quits remains with you. If you choose to rekindle the affair, bear in mind the possible risks. If you feel fed up, you need to communicate your position without hurting her feelings. You cannot communicate by dodging her phone calls.
Send your questions to
intimate@newvision.co.ug or
P.O. BOX 9815 Kampala