Win ladies over with manners
Mar 21, 2008
Many young men these days don’t know how to play chivalry in dating. In these emancipation times, you have to balance the act of being good with not projecting her as a weaker sex.
By Simon Ndyomugyenyi
Many young men these days don’t know how to play chivalry in dating. In these emancipation times, you have to balance the act of being good with not projecting her as a weaker sex.
By these rules of etiquette, you will elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman.
The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners.
As usual do it because you are convinced not because you crammed it from the newspaper.
Always open doors
Where ladies are concerned, this is almost a basic rule.
It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it.
Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or any place with a door and you are her companion, you should always hold it open.
If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Help with her seat
If you arrive at a restaurant or social place and approach your table, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
It scores always but most especially when it is a new date.
Give up your seat
If the seats are not enough in a public gathering or a lady enters a bus and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer her yours.
Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground — especially if she’s wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless.
When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event).
Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
The writer is a retired teacher and author of Sons of Gentlemen
Top Ten qualities of a gentleman
- Doesn’t pawn (unnecessarily touching people)
- Allows someone to merge in front of him in a queue
- Doesn’t litter and knows the use of a dustbin
- Doesn’t use curse words or swear at anybody
- Makes eye contact when interracting with people
- Smiles at strangers as a courteous gesture
- Asks people he meets about their day
- Is more of an Ear than a Mouth (Listens more than he speaks)
- Holds the door for women,
children or handicapped people
- Offers things he doesnt need to the less fortunate.
Many young men these days don’t know how to play chivalry in dating. In these emancipation times, you have to balance the act of being good with not projecting her as a weaker sex.
By these rules of etiquette, you will elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman.
The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners.
As usual do it because you are convinced not because you crammed it from the newspaper.
Always open doors
Where ladies are concerned, this is almost a basic rule.
It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it.
Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or any place with a door and you are her companion, you should always hold it open.
If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.
Help with her seat
If you arrive at a restaurant or social place and approach your table, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.
It scores always but most especially when it is a new date.
Give up your seat
If the seats are not enough in a public gathering or a lady enters a bus and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer her yours.
Give her your arm
When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground — especially if she’s wearing high heels.
Ask if she needs anything
This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless.
When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event).
Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.
The writer is a retired teacher and author of Sons of Gentlemen
Top Ten qualities of a gentleman
- Doesn’t pawn (unnecessarily touching people)
- Allows someone to merge in front of him in a queue
- Doesn’t litter and knows the use of a dustbin
- Doesn’t use curse words or swear at anybody
- Makes eye contact when interracting with people
- Smiles at strangers as a courteous gesture
- Asks people he meets about their day
- Is more of an Ear than a Mouth (Listens more than he speaks)
- Holds the door for women,
children or handicapped people
- Offers things he doesnt need to the less fortunate.