Men also need sengas â€" MP Nakawuki
SUSAN Nakawuki Matovu is the MP for Busiro East constituency in Wakiso district.
SUSAN Nakawuki Matovu is the MP for Busiro East constituency in Wakiso district. She spoke to Rehema Aanyu about her love life.
Why did you marry at 21?
I married at 21 because nature was too demanding. I was fully grown and getting into politics. My supporters demanded that I get married lest I lose votes. So to be taken politically serious, I approached my boyfriend, who, luckily, was interested in marriage.
How did you meet Mr. Matovu?
I meet him through a friend of mine in 2004. I was a first year student at Makerere University and he was and still is, the managing director of Emma chick Poultry breeders. He was very outgoing and had a very nice body.
Did you disappoint someone else?
Yes, I did. But I was already walking away. When I had just joined campus, I felt I needed a boyfriend because when it came to evenings and on weekends, I would see other girls being picked and dropped at the hostel by their boyfriends and I felt I was missing out. So I got a guy but the relationship was too boring. We would never go out and ended up talking only on phone. To me, it was as good as nothing, so I ended it.
Did your senga give you tips before marriage?
I was so bored by my sengas, telling me how to behave in marriage when no one was telling my husband. This was injustice. They told me age old stuff about laying the bed, waiting for my husband to return before I go to bed, taking him water to bathe, resolving problems in the bedroom, never to consider divorce
and all those things. I was saddened really. Men too should
have people telling them all these things.
What would make you dump your husband?
Extramarital affairs - most unforgivable. And if he chose to take on another wife, I would just go. I cannot share my home with a co-wife.
What do you do when he annoys you?
I remove the wedding ring till he apologises or makes amends.
It is a bold statement but it works. He listens when I do it.
Does your husband do house work?
Yes, he does. Mostly he irons clothes, bathes the baby,
changes the baby’s diapers, and, sometimes and prepares
breakfast. When at home, I cease being an MP and he
ceases being the MD. We are equal partners. You have to
understand that women are not beasts of burden.
What would you change about your husband?
I would trade his hot temper for cool headedness. Sometimes his temper leads him to extreme acts. He does not get violent but spits venom and, as a politician, treating people right is a must because I am their servant. At times it is embarrassing when he brushes people off but I know he is simply being protective and he is always apologetic.
Why did you marry at 21?
I married at 21 because nature was too demanding. I was fully grown and getting into politics. My supporters demanded that I get married lest I lose votes. So to be taken politically serious, I approached my boyfriend, who, luckily, was interested in marriage.
How did you meet Mr. Matovu?
I meet him through a friend of mine in 2004. I was a first year student at Makerere University and he was and still is, the managing director of Emma chick Poultry breeders. He was very outgoing and had a very nice body.
Did you disappoint someone else?
Yes, I did. But I was already walking away. When I had just joined campus, I felt I needed a boyfriend because when it came to evenings and on weekends, I would see other girls being picked and dropped at the hostel by their boyfriends and I felt I was missing out. So I got a guy but the relationship was too boring. We would never go out and ended up talking only on phone. To me, it was as good as nothing, so I ended it.
Did your senga give you tips before marriage?
I was so bored by my sengas, telling me how to behave in marriage when no one was telling my husband. This was injustice. They told me age old stuff about laying the bed, waiting for my husband to return before I go to bed, taking him water to bathe, resolving problems in the bedroom, never to consider divorce
and all those things. I was saddened really. Men too should
have people telling them all these things.
What would make you dump your husband?
Extramarital affairs - most unforgivable. And if he chose to take on another wife, I would just go. I cannot share my home with a co-wife.
What do you do when he annoys you?
I remove the wedding ring till he apologises or makes amends.
It is a bold statement but it works. He listens when I do it.
Does your husband do house work?
Yes, he does. Mostly he irons clothes, bathes the baby,
changes the baby’s diapers, and, sometimes and prepares
breakfast. When at home, I cease being an MP and he
ceases being the MD. We are equal partners. You have to
understand that women are not beasts of burden.
What would you change about your husband?
I would trade his hot temper for cool headedness. Sometimes his temper leads him to extreme acts. He does not get violent but spits venom and, as a politician, treating people right is a must because I am their servant. At times it is embarrassing when he brushes people off but I know he is simply being protective and he is always apologetic.