Bearing kids before marriage is risky
Aug 19, 2008
I write in response to the article titled, “Why more men insist on children before marriage†published in The New Vision of August 15. When I read such articles I get goose pimples.
Connie Hatanga
I write in response to the article titled, “Why more men insist on children before marriage†published in The New Vision of August 15. When I read such articles I get goose pimples.
Many young couples are cohabiting hoping to test-drive marriage, but the risks are major and the consequences unbelievable. Many ladies have left their parents’ homes prematurely to join their lovers in pursuit of “ekyapa†(proof) only to end up as victims and trapped in isolated relationships that only the Domestic Relations Bill and FIDA can protect. A man who claims that “if a woman is to be taken seriously, she needs to bear proof of her usefulness,†is only setting a trap for her. Women who think bearing children is a foundation to start a family are misguided.
Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and the two shall be one flesh.†Why then should a woman leave her parents’ home without their blessing to cohabit with a man who is not yet her husband? Young women are expected to marry, bear children, and guide the house. True love should not put a woman to the test and neither is it right for any woman to trap a man using children.
Men must be aware that it is possible to raise children you never fathered because you put a woman to task of providing you with a child before marriage. The only man a woman should submit to is her husband and her will to bear him children is during wedlock.
Men should not think that spending money on a woman without a child is a gamble. Women are being sexually exploited using such phrases. They are being lured with money, cars and false promises of a bright future that ends as soon as they bear children. Every time a woman compromises with a man just to acquire a fancy lifestyle, he will exploit her at the expense of her values and virtues. What is a man without his honour if he cannot be patient to take his beloved as his wife? Every man would like a virtuous woman. According to Proverbs 31: 10-31: “The price of a virtuous woman is far above rubies.†Women should, therefore, think twice before cohabiting and bearing children before marriage.
The writer is a food scientist
I write in response to the article titled, “Why more men insist on children before marriage†published in The New Vision of August 15. When I read such articles I get goose pimples.
Many young couples are cohabiting hoping to test-drive marriage, but the risks are major and the consequences unbelievable. Many ladies have left their parents’ homes prematurely to join their lovers in pursuit of “ekyapa†(proof) only to end up as victims and trapped in isolated relationships that only the Domestic Relations Bill and FIDA can protect. A man who claims that “if a woman is to be taken seriously, she needs to bear proof of her usefulness,†is only setting a trap for her. Women who think bearing children is a foundation to start a family are misguided.
Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and the two shall be one flesh.†Why then should a woman leave her parents’ home without their blessing to cohabit with a man who is not yet her husband? Young women are expected to marry, bear children, and guide the house. True love should not put a woman to the test and neither is it right for any woman to trap a man using children.
Men must be aware that it is possible to raise children you never fathered because you put a woman to task of providing you with a child before marriage. The only man a woman should submit to is her husband and her will to bear him children is during wedlock.
Men should not think that spending money on a woman without a child is a gamble. Women are being sexually exploited using such phrases. They are being lured with money, cars and false promises of a bright future that ends as soon as they bear children. Every time a woman compromises with a man just to acquire a fancy lifestyle, he will exploit her at the expense of her values and virtues. What is a man without his honour if he cannot be patient to take his beloved as his wife? Every man would like a virtuous woman. According to Proverbs 31: 10-31: “The price of a virtuous woman is far above rubies.†Women should, therefore, think twice before cohabiting and bearing children before marriage.
The writer is a food scientist