How about Valentine’s eve?
Feb 07, 2007
Valentine’s Day is next week, so don’t say I didn’t warn you. If you think it is that time of year when leisure industry gurus encourage you to spend on love because they have to complete school fees, you have the right to keep silent as anything you say may be used against you.
HILARY BAINEMIGISHA
Valentine’s Day is next week, so don’t say I didn’t warn you. If you think it is that time of year when leisure industry gurus encourage you to spend on love because they have to complete school fees, you have the right to keep silent as anything you say may be used against you.
For the rest of the lovers who are marking time for a showdown, I wanted to tell you how you can have a blast at a reasonable cost.
But, on second thought, I will not do such a thing lest you start thinking that I am broke (don’t I know you?). And that is not a pleasant thing to think for someone.
So face the music. There is no genuine love which does not inconvenience. Buy your lovers something, take them out and leave some footsteps in their hearts. And for new lovers, it really serves you right. How could you colonise your friend so close to Valentine’s Day? Didn’t you know you would have to pay on Feb 14th? So, face the music.
Generally, my belief is that we shouldn’t gazette days for love. Valentines should come any day you feel amorous. That is why I am not going to write about the Wednesday Valentine Day.
I want to look at the night before.
The eve of big days are usually days of anxiety, excitement, waiting, wondering, getting ready and promising to be at your best. Sometimes we inadvertently heighten our expectations to levels from which falls can be back-breaking. Other times you don’t know what to do with yourself.
Imagine my wife telling me: Not tonight Darling, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day! And going by (Bushenyi District LC 5 Vice Chairman) Benon’s sex load-shedding rota, you keep it for tomorrow only to wake up with high fever that keeps you down for days.
For couples who do not stay together, wondering what he has planned or what she wants to surprise you with can be calorie-consuming. So, why not ship yourself over and cut out the waiting? Surprises can be scary.
Remember the dog which ran away from a juicy bone? Dig in. Let Valentine’s Day find you together and pray that it expires when you are together even if you have to part briefly for jobs. But you have to beware of those who insist that you meet the previous day. Some are planning to disappear on the real day. But if they indeed do disappear, you won’t have come out empty handed.
A little pre-celebration never hurt anyone! Don’t we have kasiki for weddings? Why don’t you let your lover sniff-ko what you are keeping in store for the day?
Unless of course you are a last minute struggler which I would not want to associate my fans with.
Then on the real day, make it special – as if you have just found each other and are celebrating that perfect union of hearts. And even if you have given a hint the previous night, make Wednesday a surprise. Surprise is a very powerful tool, but it requires foresight and planning. The fact that you went to lengths to surprise them (including a diversionary Valentine’s Eve) implies care. Women, especially, seem to relate surprise with romance.
Secondly, be creative. The same package will send your date to sleep early before the agenda is complete. Try something new, it scores more.
But for these to fire the cupid arrow, you must know your partner’s interests. To plan a surprise implies doing groundwork stealthily. So you must have enough references on her interests so that you don’t take her bowling when she thought it would be dancing. Or you take him to a movie when all he wanted is a bed and flying sheets.
Above all, have a sense of humour. We are so stressed out with work, poverty, politics, health that a bout of laughter can be the most welcome item. The ability to laugh together is the mark of great romance. And if ever there is a rival you should fear, it is that person who makes your mate laugh. Show me a Valentines without laughter and I will show you a boring Wednesday.
Lastly, I thought I promised not to write about Valentine’s Day!
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug
Valentine’s Day is next week, so don’t say I didn’t warn you. If you think it is that time of year when leisure industry gurus encourage you to spend on love because they have to complete school fees, you have the right to keep silent as anything you say may be used against you.
For the rest of the lovers who are marking time for a showdown, I wanted to tell you how you can have a blast at a reasonable cost.
But, on second thought, I will not do such a thing lest you start thinking that I am broke (don’t I know you?). And that is not a pleasant thing to think for someone.
So face the music. There is no genuine love which does not inconvenience. Buy your lovers something, take them out and leave some footsteps in their hearts. And for new lovers, it really serves you right. How could you colonise your friend so close to Valentine’s Day? Didn’t you know you would have to pay on Feb 14th? So, face the music.
Generally, my belief is that we shouldn’t gazette days for love. Valentines should come any day you feel amorous. That is why I am not going to write about the Wednesday Valentine Day.
I want to look at the night before.
The eve of big days are usually days of anxiety, excitement, waiting, wondering, getting ready and promising to be at your best. Sometimes we inadvertently heighten our expectations to levels from which falls can be back-breaking. Other times you don’t know what to do with yourself.
Imagine my wife telling me: Not tonight Darling, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day! And going by (Bushenyi District LC 5 Vice Chairman) Benon’s sex load-shedding rota, you keep it for tomorrow only to wake up with high fever that keeps you down for days.
For couples who do not stay together, wondering what he has planned or what she wants to surprise you with can be calorie-consuming. So, why not ship yourself over and cut out the waiting? Surprises can be scary.
Remember the dog which ran away from a juicy bone? Dig in. Let Valentine’s Day find you together and pray that it expires when you are together even if you have to part briefly for jobs. But you have to beware of those who insist that you meet the previous day. Some are planning to disappear on the real day. But if they indeed do disappear, you won’t have come out empty handed.
A little pre-celebration never hurt anyone! Don’t we have kasiki for weddings? Why don’t you let your lover sniff-ko what you are keeping in store for the day?
Unless of course you are a last minute struggler which I would not want to associate my fans with.
Then on the real day, make it special – as if you have just found each other and are celebrating that perfect union of hearts. And even if you have given a hint the previous night, make Wednesday a surprise. Surprise is a very powerful tool, but it requires foresight and planning. The fact that you went to lengths to surprise them (including a diversionary Valentine’s Eve) implies care. Women, especially, seem to relate surprise with romance.
Secondly, be creative. The same package will send your date to sleep early before the agenda is complete. Try something new, it scores more.
But for these to fire the cupid arrow, you must know your partner’s interests. To plan a surprise implies doing groundwork stealthily. So you must have enough references on her interests so that you don’t take her bowling when she thought it would be dancing. Or you take him to a movie when all he wanted is a bed and flying sheets.
Above all, have a sense of humour. We are so stressed out with work, poverty, politics, health that a bout of laughter can be the most welcome item. The ability to laugh together is the mark of great romance. And if ever there is a rival you should fear, it is that person who makes your mate laugh. Show me a Valentines without laughter and I will show you a boring Wednesday.
Lastly, I thought I promised not to write about Valentine’s Day!
hbainemigisha@newvision.co.ug