Kampala’s working single ladies disappointing
I READ with shock the survey in The New Vision of January 26 which showed over 500 single ladies of marriageable age living and working in Kampala but still unmarried.
By Yusufu Kiwanda
I READ with shock the survey in The New Vision of January 26 which showed over 500 single ladies of marriageable age living and working in Kampala but still unmarried.
The reasons they forwarded to support their decision to remain single left me wondering where the moral fibre of this nation went.
Those not interested in marriage were 15.8 percent and those who lost hope 3.1 percent. Other reasons advanced are previous bad experience and, worst of all, “fun†plus the baby mama syndrome (where ladies of marriageable age prefer to have a child or two and stay single).
As a young senior six vacationist, I am appalled and hurt because I no longer see marriage role models in our country. Our artists, musicians and radio DJ’s all seem to be against marriage and culture, and media seem to applaud them.
Many of the ladies who had bad experience with ex-boyfriends don’t give themselves another chance. They take marriage as a useless thing not knowing that they can walk away and start a new life where they will find Mr. Right.
I thought this “western craze†was only affecting the “Britney spears†but it’s so saddening that our own African women are taking it up. It is a show of sheer madness that is portraying a bad image of marriage. You may not agree with me at this moment but marriage is more than a legal contract or wedding ceremony. It’s a formal agreement and the only long life ceremony we have in human civilisation. It’s not about love as mere emotion but marital love in a willful commitment.
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling; it’s a decision, a judgment, a promise. If love was only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever and so the promise to love “till death do us apart†would not arise.
Marriage benefits all. It enhances the well being of adults, children and communities in many ways. It is the glue that holds families and societies together and it has been recognised and practiced in nearly every civilised and uncivilised society throughout human history.
I am not married but given what I get from my parents, I think I am healthier physically and emotionally because mum and dad chose to be married. I pray that the next generation gets that benefit. I am not saying marriage is all rosy. Conflicts will occur in every marriage; it’s a refining process.
The writer is a former student of St. Mary’s Kitende Secondary School
I READ with shock the survey in The New Vision of January 26 which showed over 500 single ladies of marriageable age living and working in Kampala but still unmarried.
The reasons they forwarded to support their decision to remain single left me wondering where the moral fibre of this nation went.
Those not interested in marriage were 15.8 percent and those who lost hope 3.1 percent. Other reasons advanced are previous bad experience and, worst of all, “fun†plus the baby mama syndrome (where ladies of marriageable age prefer to have a child or two and stay single).
As a young senior six vacationist, I am appalled and hurt because I no longer see marriage role models in our country. Our artists, musicians and radio DJ’s all seem to be against marriage and culture, and media seem to applaud them.
Many of the ladies who had bad experience with ex-boyfriends don’t give themselves another chance. They take marriage as a useless thing not knowing that they can walk away and start a new life where they will find Mr. Right.
I thought this “western craze†was only affecting the “Britney spears†but it’s so saddening that our own African women are taking it up. It is a show of sheer madness that is portraying a bad image of marriage. You may not agree with me at this moment but marriage is more than a legal contract or wedding ceremony. It’s a formal agreement and the only long life ceremony we have in human civilisation. It’s not about love as mere emotion but marital love in a willful commitment.
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling; it’s a decision, a judgment, a promise. If love was only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever and so the promise to love “till death do us apart†would not arise.
Marriage benefits all. It enhances the well being of adults, children and communities in many ways. It is the glue that holds families and societies together and it has been recognised and practiced in nearly every civilised and uncivilised society throughout human history.
I am not married but given what I get from my parents, I think I am healthier physically and emotionally because mum and dad chose to be married. I pray that the next generation gets that benefit. I am not saying marriage is all rosy. Conflicts will occur in every marriage; it’s a refining process.
The writer is a former student of St. Mary’s Kitende Secondary School