Okello, Owere and Georgina spent a Valentine weekend at Paraa Safari Lodge
Mar 02, 2007
Andrew Owere and Mary Georgina talked to <b>Hilary Bainemigisha</b> about their Valentine’s experiences at Paraa Safari Lodge
OWERE
Question: How was it?
Answer: It was fun. My girlfriend loved it. She was very good company.
How long have you been together?
Over two years. We started loving each other when she was in S5, now she is in S6 vacation. She is 19 and I am 22. She works in a salon and gives me money sometimes because I am jobless. I used to work at City Bite eatery. I did not study much. I only went up to S3.
Now that she has seen wild romance, will you manage to satisfy her expectations?
Everything belongs to God. He is the provider. Did I know I would ever go to Murchison Falls on an all expenses paid trip? Love cannot be bought with money. Emotions are a gift from God. If she left me then she is not the one God chose for me.
You mean you plan to marry her?
Oh yes and she knows it. We have talked about it so much.
But don’t you think if she went to the university, that would be a tall order?
I am not afraid. Book knowledge is not such a formidable stumbling block to me. I know many things graduates do not know. I think I can compete favourably with 50% of all S.6 leavers.
When you started two years ago, she was 17, didn’t you fear being accused of defilement?
No, we are virgins. She assured me she is. We have never had sex and intend to keep it so till marriage.
You were in Paraa in a romantic suite for two nights and had no sex?
Absolutely. We both reaffirmed our commitment to abstinence and slept together in peace.
How do you know she was not disappointed in you?
She knows me. We have talked about abstinence for long and she knew what to expect. I don’t know if she had other ideas, but how come she is very happy with me till now?
Can you give our readers tips on how to sleep with a girlfriend twice in a romantic suite and desist from having sex?
First, talk about it. Praise abstinence and set yourselves standards. Then keep the conversation going to stop the devil from entering an idle mind. We still showed affection.
I had carried music CDs and we listened to romantic music and discussed our future. We kissed, but we did not touch intimately. That kept temptation to manageable levels. We also prayed. I asked her to lead the prayer because we agreed that the trip was a gift from God.
GEORGINA
QUESTION: Did you love the idea of the trip?
Answer: When Andrew asked me to accompany him, I thought he was joking. He can be playful. I refused to believe till we called Lillian of UWA. Then I got excited.
Didn’t your parents try to stop you?
I am an orphan. I stay with my sisters. We all thought it was a one-day thing. But when it turned out to be far, I had to call them to explain that I would not be returning soon. I assured them I was in good hands.
But were you?
Of course I was. I know Andrew. We are practicing abstinence. I did not feel scared of sleeping with him in the same room because he has been steadfast for two years. Even if he was to backslide, he is a guy who first discusses something before doing it. I would help him through the discussion. Thank God he did not. I was very comfortable.
But how much was the temptation?
I do not know about him but for me, the pressure varied from strong to manageable eventually. I would have hated myself if I had failed to control myself. But now I am as happy as can be, totally in love and trust for Andrew.
What was the most memorable romantic incident of the trip?
My boyfriend; his company, jokes and attention. If it was not for Andrew, I would not have gone there. I had never seen wild animals or water falls except on TV. I had never crossed a river in a boat. We got a rare blessing and passed through a rainbow and its colours spread on us. We used to be told that it was risky to get to the source of the rainbow – that it would swallow you.
Will you marry Andrew if he asked you now?
I will marry him three years from now. I have to study first and get a certificate and even a job. If he loves me, he will wait. The beauty of abstinence is that even if he left me, I would stay with my pride. I will be disappointed but he will not have taken my chastity.
The problem will be for you to continue to the university and feel too big for him
Never! I love Andrew in a special way. I like his ways. He is not like many other boys. They start talking to you and within two weeks, they have asked for sex. Andrew is patient and he listens; he can be stubborn but he treats me well.
Are you a virgin?
I am. We had a group of six girls at our school, Wanale View, Mbale who made a vow to remain virgins till marriage. Other students called us lesbians because we were not into boys or dances. To spite them, we got ourselves a name; The Dirtydwang Click. We are in touch and encourage each other.
Question: How was it?
Answer: It was fun. My girlfriend loved it. She was very good company.
How long have you been together?
Over two years. We started loving each other when she was in S5, now she is in S6 vacation. She is 19 and I am 22. She works in a salon and gives me money sometimes because I am jobless. I used to work at City Bite eatery. I did not study much. I only went up to S3.
Now that she has seen wild romance, will you manage to satisfy her expectations?
Everything belongs to God. He is the provider. Did I know I would ever go to Murchison Falls on an all expenses paid trip? Love cannot be bought with money. Emotions are a gift from God. If she left me then she is not the one God chose for me.
You mean you plan to marry her?
Oh yes and she knows it. We have talked about it so much.
But don’t you think if she went to the university, that would be a tall order?
I am not afraid. Book knowledge is not such a formidable stumbling block to me. I know many things graduates do not know. I think I can compete favourably with 50% of all S.6 leavers.
When you started two years ago, she was 17, didn’t you fear being accused of defilement?
No, we are virgins. She assured me she is. We have never had sex and intend to keep it so till marriage.
You were in Paraa in a romantic suite for two nights and had no sex?
Absolutely. We both reaffirmed our commitment to abstinence and slept together in peace.
How do you know she was not disappointed in you?
She knows me. We have talked about abstinence for long and she knew what to expect. I don’t know if she had other ideas, but how come she is very happy with me till now?
Can you give our readers tips on how to sleep with a girlfriend twice in a romantic suite and desist from having sex?
First, talk about it. Praise abstinence and set yourselves standards. Then keep the conversation going to stop the devil from entering an idle mind. We still showed affection.
I had carried music CDs and we listened to romantic music and discussed our future. We kissed, but we did not touch intimately. That kept temptation to manageable levels. We also prayed. I asked her to lead the prayer because we agreed that the trip was a gift from God.
GEORGINA
QUESTION: Did you love the idea of the trip?
Answer: When Andrew asked me to accompany him, I thought he was joking. He can be playful. I refused to believe till we called Lillian of UWA. Then I got excited.
Didn’t your parents try to stop you?
I am an orphan. I stay with my sisters. We all thought it was a one-day thing. But when it turned out to be far, I had to call them to explain that I would not be returning soon. I assured them I was in good hands.
But were you?
Of course I was. I know Andrew. We are practicing abstinence. I did not feel scared of sleeping with him in the same room because he has been steadfast for two years. Even if he was to backslide, he is a guy who first discusses something before doing it. I would help him through the discussion. Thank God he did not. I was very comfortable.
But how much was the temptation?
I do not know about him but for me, the pressure varied from strong to manageable eventually. I would have hated myself if I had failed to control myself. But now I am as happy as can be, totally in love and trust for Andrew.
What was the most memorable romantic incident of the trip?
My boyfriend; his company, jokes and attention. If it was not for Andrew, I would not have gone there. I had never seen wild animals or water falls except on TV. I had never crossed a river in a boat. We got a rare blessing and passed through a rainbow and its colours spread on us. We used to be told that it was risky to get to the source of the rainbow – that it would swallow you.
Will you marry Andrew if he asked you now?
I will marry him three years from now. I have to study first and get a certificate and even a job. If he loves me, he will wait. The beauty of abstinence is that even if he left me, I would stay with my pride. I will be disappointed but he will not have taken my chastity.
The problem will be for you to continue to the university and feel too big for him
Never! I love Andrew in a special way. I like his ways. He is not like many other boys. They start talking to you and within two weeks, they have asked for sex. Andrew is patient and he listens; he can be stubborn but he treats me well.
Are you a virgin?
I am. We had a group of six girls at our school, Wanale View, Mbale who made a vow to remain virgins till marriage. Other students called us lesbians because we were not into boys or dances. To spite them, we got ourselves a name; The Dirtydwang Click. We are in touch and encourage each other.