Women choose money
AS we approach Women’s Day, let us not think of the planned nude demonstration by Forum for Democratic Change activists — although it is hard to ignore the prospect of naked adult women running from tear gas. Let us distract ourselves with the question; what do women want?
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By Hilary Bainemigisha
AS we approach Women’s Day, let us not think of the planned nude demonstration by Forum for Democratic Change activists — although it is hard to ignore the prospect of naked adult women running from tear gas. Let us distract ourselves with the question; what do women want?
The answer is in the frustrated fancy a friend of mine let out recently: “How I wish all the poor men disappeared off the face of the earth!†Her boyfriend had just confessed that he had no money to watch The Last King Of Scotland, the hottest movie in town. It is not a joking matter when a girlfriend opts for your demise for missing out on a film about Scotland, whose location she has no idea about.
And the point is that women naturally need protection, assurance of provision and security of wealth. Do not argue yet. I know your list of criteria for a marriage partner is full of goodies that range from sense of humour, to moral values and strong character. But why is it that when an arrogant, frog-faced, philandering dollar man shows up, you gallop for front position in the queue?
Because it is natural for women to marry up, not down. A man will marry a cleaner who scrubs the floor at the office if she is nice and pretty enough. But if indeed she is nice and pretty and she is a cleaner at the office, you can be sure she is eyeing your boss instead.
She is looking for a protector, provider and security for herself and the children. And even if she settles for an average guy, she is not being moral and dignified. She will have sniffed at a guy’s potential to earn better in future.
The natural selection rule is a screening process that leaves out less successful men, inadvertently providing a motivation for men to work harder. You cannot do that properly if your idea of fun is to ask for banja (credit) always.
But do not just sit there reading and enjoying. Make a mental note to work harder.
There was a study in the US among college girls. They were shown photographs of handsome and homely men in three different attires: blazer, shirt, designer tie and Rolex watch (these men were described as doctors). Then plain white shirt (these men were described as teachers). And lastly those in uniform of a Burger King employee. The girls were required to state their willingness to engage in relationships with the men. The study found that the women were significantly more willing to hitch with high status males than with either the medium or low status, handsome males.
Researchers concluded that the socio-economic status of males has a decisive influence on female sexual response at all levels of intimacy, even offsetting male unattractiveness.
So money — or the assurance of money in the future — is generally the single most significant criterion in how women choose men.
Most women are told by peers and aunties not to release the key to the padlock until the man has first shelled out quite of bit of money for drinks, outings and gifts — proof that he is able.
While this appears to me like women using men, it helps when you steal UNEB questions. It is always good to know how the butterfly flies. So, stop reading now and work on improving your ability to earn. You do not want to drop out prematurely like Arsenal.
By Hilary Bainemigisha
AS we approach Women’s Day, let us not think of the planned nude demonstration by Forum for Democratic Change activists — although it is hard to ignore the prospect of naked adult women running from tear gas. Let us distract ourselves with the question; what do women want?
The answer is in the frustrated fancy a friend of mine let out recently: “How I wish all the poor men disappeared off the face of the earth!†Her boyfriend had just confessed that he had no money to watch The Last King Of Scotland, the hottest movie in town. It is not a joking matter when a girlfriend opts for your demise for missing out on a film about Scotland, whose location she has no idea about.
And the point is that women naturally need protection, assurance of provision and security of wealth. Do not argue yet. I know your list of criteria for a marriage partner is full of goodies that range from sense of humour, to moral values and strong character. But why is it that when an arrogant, frog-faced, philandering dollar man shows up, you gallop for front position in the queue?
Because it is natural for women to marry up, not down. A man will marry a cleaner who scrubs the floor at the office if she is nice and pretty enough. But if indeed she is nice and pretty and she is a cleaner at the office, you can be sure she is eyeing your boss instead.
She is looking for a protector, provider and security for herself and the children. And even if she settles for an average guy, she is not being moral and dignified. She will have sniffed at a guy’s potential to earn better in future.
The natural selection rule is a screening process that leaves out less successful men, inadvertently providing a motivation for men to work harder. You cannot do that properly if your idea of fun is to ask for banja (credit) always.
But do not just sit there reading and enjoying. Make a mental note to work harder.
There was a study in the US among college girls. They were shown photographs of handsome and homely men in three different attires: blazer, shirt, designer tie and Rolex watch (these men were described as doctors). Then plain white shirt (these men were described as teachers). And lastly those in uniform of a Burger King employee. The girls were required to state their willingness to engage in relationships with the men. The study found that the women were significantly more willing to hitch with high status males than with either the medium or low status, handsome males.
Researchers concluded that the socio-economic status of males has a decisive influence on female sexual response at all levels of intimacy, even offsetting male unattractiveness.
So money — or the assurance of money in the future — is generally the single most significant criterion in how women choose men.
Most women are told by peers and aunties not to release the key to the padlock until the man has first shelled out quite of bit of money for drinks, outings and gifts — proof that he is able.
While this appears to me like women using men, it helps when you steal UNEB questions. It is always good to know how the butterfly flies. So, stop reading now and work on improving your ability to earn. You do not want to drop out prematurely like Arsenal.