Siigns that she is interested in you
HOW would you know that a lady is interested in you? Although times have changed and some women come out more boldly, there are still many, who cannot walk up to a man and declare their interest.
By Harriet Birungi
HOW would you know that a lady is interested in you? Although times have changed and some women come out more boldly, there are still many, who cannot walk up to a man and declare their interest.
However, nature has filled in the gap. In every culture, there are signs that will say it all. Sometimes, the woman gives the signals intentionally to show that she wants more than friendship from a man, but at other times, she does so without realising that she is indicating sexual interest.
Martin Lloyd Elliot, a relationship counsellor with Woman’s Own Magazine, says most times the signs are meant to say that what you have should head towards sexy feelings. “And more often, quietly and seductively, people use body language to reveal their attraction to a person.â€
But sadly, some guys either ignore or just can’t see the signs. These are the people who are forcing women to be bolder and bold is not feminine.
For instance, why wouldn’t you get ideas when a woman keeps stealing glances at you? And when you catch her looking at you, she quickly turns away. Read the eye communication brother, read!
Eyes will also show you. This is locally termed as kuloola. A woman will tilt her head forcing the eyes into an extreme position while looking at you.
Or the eyes will be dreamy. Those are ‘come to bed eyes’, which only the blind may miss. They indicate some fantasy going on in the brain attracting such concentration that the eyes are ‘forgotten’ to appear dreamy.
Then there is shyness. Women may be naturally shy, but why would it be that when you are around, she becomes more shy? She looks down, fumbles with her fingers, may start folding the hem of her blouse or pull at her skirt, ... you can’t fail to notice.
And the master piece for many is the biting of the small finger as she looks at you. This usually comes as a package; rolling or dreamy eyes, tilted head, slightly open lips and the small finger inserted in the mouth. If you don’t notice this, not even a bullet will enlighten you.
According to personality studies, people tend to copy mannerisms of the person they admire. Unconsciously, a woman will find herself imitating a man’s gestures or taking up the same look. Her walking style, her laughter, her pauses and body movement may be tuned to resemble those of the man she loves. Often this occurs everywhere even when the object of attraction is absent. It is known as echoing.
Many men have noticed a woman, sitting before them, swinging her thighs a bit, in a slow sideways move. Many times this is unintentional, but not meaningless. Movement is a strong attraction stimulus in the psychology of perception. I bet you can be forgiven for taking the hint to imagine that the thighs before you could do with some caressing.
Alternatively, a woman could sit with her skirt pulled up to expose some bit of thigh and if the guy is the type who wants to turn the other cheek first, a hand may be added to caress the thigh signifying the desire to be touched.
In Africa, the area from the waist to the thighs is a sexual zone and exposing and caressing it should ring bells in an African man.
Other signs move towards the bold boundary, but many women are forced to use them when dealing with uninterested men or those who are not tutored in the art of silent communication.
You may be seated and a woman keeps letting your knees and feet touch under the table. That should be stimulating.
Some women may be forced to pass several times by where a man is seated, shaking the bum more than usual with the chest pushed forward and showing grace.
Other women expose a bit of their inner garments as if to say that “if it were not for other women getting jealous, I would walk without clothes.†When a woman greets you and you linger on her hand, don’t miss the look she will give you when she approves. Some guys will even use one finger to scratch the palm of the woman’s hand. It is deal if a woman scratches back, but even if she does not, she may not protest. But watch her eyes.
Women smile a lot when they look at their objects of admiration and laugh at their jokes whether funny or not. And if she cannot look in your eyes for a minute, you know she cannot stand the fire, she is ‘into you’ and wants you to reciprocate.
However, women should be careful what signs they use when with friends.
Sometimes we send wrong signals only to turn and accuse the person responding. If you want just friendship, show it.
HOW would you know that a lady is interested in you? Although times have changed and some women come out more boldly, there are still many, who cannot walk up to a man and declare their interest.
However, nature has filled in the gap. In every culture, there are signs that will say it all. Sometimes, the woman gives the signals intentionally to show that she wants more than friendship from a man, but at other times, she does so without realising that she is indicating sexual interest.
Martin Lloyd Elliot, a relationship counsellor with Woman’s Own Magazine, says most times the signs are meant to say that what you have should head towards sexy feelings. “And more often, quietly and seductively, people use body language to reveal their attraction to a person.â€
But sadly, some guys either ignore or just can’t see the signs. These are the people who are forcing women to be bolder and bold is not feminine.
For instance, why wouldn’t you get ideas when a woman keeps stealing glances at you? And when you catch her looking at you, she quickly turns away. Read the eye communication brother, read!
Eyes will also show you. This is locally termed as kuloola. A woman will tilt her head forcing the eyes into an extreme position while looking at you.
Or the eyes will be dreamy. Those are ‘come to bed eyes’, which only the blind may miss. They indicate some fantasy going on in the brain attracting such concentration that the eyes are ‘forgotten’ to appear dreamy.
Then there is shyness. Women may be naturally shy, but why would it be that when you are around, she becomes more shy? She looks down, fumbles with her fingers, may start folding the hem of her blouse or pull at her skirt, ... you can’t fail to notice.
And the master piece for many is the biting of the small finger as she looks at you. This usually comes as a package; rolling or dreamy eyes, tilted head, slightly open lips and the small finger inserted in the mouth. If you don’t notice this, not even a bullet will enlighten you.
According to personality studies, people tend to copy mannerisms of the person they admire. Unconsciously, a woman will find herself imitating a man’s gestures or taking up the same look. Her walking style, her laughter, her pauses and body movement may be tuned to resemble those of the man she loves. Often this occurs everywhere even when the object of attraction is absent. It is known as echoing.
Many men have noticed a woman, sitting before them, swinging her thighs a bit, in a slow sideways move. Many times this is unintentional, but not meaningless. Movement is a strong attraction stimulus in the psychology of perception. I bet you can be forgiven for taking the hint to imagine that the thighs before you could do with some caressing.
Alternatively, a woman could sit with her skirt pulled up to expose some bit of thigh and if the guy is the type who wants to turn the other cheek first, a hand may be added to caress the thigh signifying the desire to be touched.
In Africa, the area from the waist to the thighs is a sexual zone and exposing and caressing it should ring bells in an African man.
Other signs move towards the bold boundary, but many women are forced to use them when dealing with uninterested men or those who are not tutored in the art of silent communication.
You may be seated and a woman keeps letting your knees and feet touch under the table. That should be stimulating.
Some women may be forced to pass several times by where a man is seated, shaking the bum more than usual with the chest pushed forward and showing grace.
Other women expose a bit of their inner garments as if to say that “if it were not for other women getting jealous, I would walk without clothes.†When a woman greets you and you linger on her hand, don’t miss the look she will give you when she approves. Some guys will even use one finger to scratch the palm of the woman’s hand. It is deal if a woman scratches back, but even if she does not, she may not protest. But watch her eyes.
Women smile a lot when they look at their objects of admiration and laugh at their jokes whether funny or not. And if she cannot look in your eyes for a minute, you know she cannot stand the fire, she is ‘into you’ and wants you to reciprocate.
However, women should be careful what signs they use when with friends.
Sometimes we send wrong signals only to turn and accuse the person responding. If you want just friendship, show it.