You can mend your broken heart
GOD was clever. If he had created us with transparent chests like the ballot boxes EC has imported, we would have seen how punctured and welded each of our hearts is.
By Hilary Bainemigisha
GOD was clever. If he had created us with transparent chests like the ballot boxes EC has imported, we would have seen how punctured and welded each of our hearts is.
For almost everyone who has drunk from the cup of love has contributed to causality list of heartbreaks. It may be temporal, but some are fatal. The person you loved so much throws you out the way assessors threw out Besigye’s rape case.
But government is not mourning because it has lost a lot of money on Kyakuwa and company. looking for justice. Supporters may mock the DPP, but that will not stop him from organising another rope noose. The same applies to broken hearts. If people can lose children and live on, why wouldn’t you recover from a heartbreak.
Now get up, take up your bed and go. Unlike politics, there is no monopoly of vision in recovering from lost love. But below are stages born out of people’s experiences — people who were bold enough to share their recovery experiences with a heart broken support group at www.been-dumped.com.
According to the veterans, there are six stages of recovery. Some stages may be longer than others, but the important thing is that you will get over this. If someone doesn’t love you anymore, there is no point in staying together even if it hurts to break up. Over time the pain will heal and you will be ready to let others in and share your wonderful self with them.
Just because one relationship didn’t click, doesn’t mean another wont.
Stage One
The Realisation — First, you notice a change in Beloved’s behaviour. It may range from total disregard of your feelings to cheating on you. Any discussion leads into a parade of his tanks.
He now says you remind him of your witch of a mum. Some take note fast, others actually wait to see Beloved kissing a rival in their presence to realise that the affair is on life support. You need courage to face the fact that things are not working out.
Stage Two
The Actual Realisation — Okay, you threatened to leave him/her again and he/she didn’t care! So, you realise your name is now written under the ‘delete’ files.
What if you miss them? What if they don’t miss you? You might start to think it was not a good idea to break up. You wake up from your dream, cry a bit and keep reminding yourself that you cannot call them. Just because you miss them does not mean it will be great when you resume. The victor at this stage is the one who succeeds in not calling them again.
Stage Three
The Crappy Part — You realise that your life will be different. All your memories replay over again as everything reminds you of beloved.
There is this feeling that deceives you that there is no one else good enough. You tell friends you are over it, but cry into the pillow when the night smells like them. Your life may seem over, but time heals all wounds, even a broken heart will mend over time. This stage sucks, but it is vital because passing through it is the actual healing process.
Stage Four
The Rage — You notice you are recovering when your emotions turn into anger.
That bitch/bastard! I treated them like gold! They did not deserve it! The bitterness reveals all their annoying traits that you once thought were cute.
Instead of wasting your day in bed calculating your losses, you get out of bed and dress to impress. Then you realise you look good and feel good you can actually say and believe it; “if they don’t want you, that’s their problem, not yoursâ€. You get friends and have fun. Over time you start missing them less and love yourself more.
You discover your potential and value. There is no point feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world out there waiting for you with plenty of new and exciting people to meet.
Stage Five
The Crush — By this time, you will have realised that your ex isn’t the only one in the world.
The moment you opened yourself up to the world, other people wanted to get to know you. Even if you are not ready to start an intense relationship with somebody else, get out there and start having fun again.
You will get over your ex a lot faster if you stop moping around.
Stage Six
Freedom! — You have not thought about your ex in days and then you meet them in the street with someone else, and your stomach does not lurch as if there is a rat on steroids lodged in your intestines.
When you say ‘hi’, your ex looks more uncomfortable than you are. You move on proud and tall and don’t think about the encounter for more then 10 minutes ever again.
You even notice that they are not doing well. But you don’t care because right now, you have to decide which of the five people calling you deserves you for a date. You are finally free and ready to open up and love again.
GOD was clever. If he had created us with transparent chests like the ballot boxes EC has imported, we would have seen how punctured and welded each of our hearts is.
For almost everyone who has drunk from the cup of love has contributed to causality list of heartbreaks. It may be temporal, but some are fatal. The person you loved so much throws you out the way assessors threw out Besigye’s rape case.
But government is not mourning because it has lost a lot of money on Kyakuwa and company. looking for justice. Supporters may mock the DPP, but that will not stop him from organising another rope noose. The same applies to broken hearts. If people can lose children and live on, why wouldn’t you recover from a heartbreak.
Now get up, take up your bed and go. Unlike politics, there is no monopoly of vision in recovering from lost love. But below are stages born out of people’s experiences — people who were bold enough to share their recovery experiences with a heart broken support group at www.been-dumped.com.
According to the veterans, there are six stages of recovery. Some stages may be longer than others, but the important thing is that you will get over this. If someone doesn’t love you anymore, there is no point in staying together even if it hurts to break up. Over time the pain will heal and you will be ready to let others in and share your wonderful self with them.
Just because one relationship didn’t click, doesn’t mean another wont.
Stage One
The Realisation — First, you notice a change in Beloved’s behaviour. It may range from total disregard of your feelings to cheating on you. Any discussion leads into a parade of his tanks.
He now says you remind him of your witch of a mum. Some take note fast, others actually wait to see Beloved kissing a rival in their presence to realise that the affair is on life support. You need courage to face the fact that things are not working out.
Stage Two
The Actual Realisation — Okay, you threatened to leave him/her again and he/she didn’t care! So, you realise your name is now written under the ‘delete’ files.
What if you miss them? What if they don’t miss you? You might start to think it was not a good idea to break up. You wake up from your dream, cry a bit and keep reminding yourself that you cannot call them. Just because you miss them does not mean it will be great when you resume. The victor at this stage is the one who succeeds in not calling them again.
Stage Three
The Crappy Part — You realise that your life will be different. All your memories replay over again as everything reminds you of beloved.
There is this feeling that deceives you that there is no one else good enough. You tell friends you are over it, but cry into the pillow when the night smells like them. Your life may seem over, but time heals all wounds, even a broken heart will mend over time. This stage sucks, but it is vital because passing through it is the actual healing process.
Stage Four
The Rage — You notice you are recovering when your emotions turn into anger.
That bitch/bastard! I treated them like gold! They did not deserve it! The bitterness reveals all their annoying traits that you once thought were cute.
Instead of wasting your day in bed calculating your losses, you get out of bed and dress to impress. Then you realise you look good and feel good you can actually say and believe it; “if they don’t want you, that’s their problem, not yoursâ€. You get friends and have fun. Over time you start missing them less and love yourself more.
You discover your potential and value. There is no point feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world out there waiting for you with plenty of new and exciting people to meet.
Stage Five
The Crush — By this time, you will have realised that your ex isn’t the only one in the world.
The moment you opened yourself up to the world, other people wanted to get to know you. Even if you are not ready to start an intense relationship with somebody else, get out there and start having fun again.
You will get over your ex a lot faster if you stop moping around.
Stage Six
Freedom! — You have not thought about your ex in days and then you meet them in the street with someone else, and your stomach does not lurch as if there is a rat on steroids lodged in your intestines.
When you say ‘hi’, your ex looks more uncomfortable than you are. You move on proud and tall and don’t think about the encounter for more then 10 minutes ever again.
You even notice that they are not doing well. But you don’t care because right now, you have to decide which of the five people calling you deserves you for a date. You are finally free and ready to open up and love again.