SMS DITCH
Nov 17, 2006
You are expecting your Beloved Hornsleth to call because lately, the relationship looks like Kampala’s potholed roads.
Why you’ve got to face your lover to dump them
You are expecting your Beloved Hornsleth to call because lately, the relationship looks like Kampala’s potholed roads.
You have been thinking over it and decided to call off the ‘strike’ because you do not want the love you have given a lot to be frozen.
Then, he sends an SMS. You dive for the phone and excitedly open the message: ‘Hi, I’m thru w u! Twas nic yl it lastd, bye’
Oh, are you fired? On SMS! Is it a joke?
But why should anyone joke with your heart? Can an SMS close a university of love? Should you send a pleading SMS reply? Should you fire back an ‘I don’t care?’ What do you do?
Last week, Britney Spears, 24, sent her soon-to-be-ex-husband, Kevin Federline, an SMS: “I have filed for divorce!†Apparently, Reuters reported, Federline was taping a reality show in Canada when he got the axing SMS.
He put his head in his hands, ripped off his microphone and disappeared, returning 30 minutes later visibly upset. Unfortunately, all this was captured on video.
Spears’ SMS missile was such an abrupt teargas that rapper Federline may sneeze for a long time. And you still think an SMS is as cheap as sh50?
Experts on text message use and etiquette say Federline is not the first to be dumped by text – and certainly would not be the last, with rising numbers of teenagers and 20-somethings using text to avoid confrontation.
The chief executive of online wireless retailer LetsTalk.com, Delly Tamer, said break up SMSs are common among people in their teens and 20s, who have not yet considered love relationships as life investments.
Margie drunk from the same cup while still at the university two years ago.
“It was a Sunday morningâ€, she said.
“The SMS just said; ‘It’s ova! Do not wana c u gain – ex’. I immediately headed for his hostel near Bwaise expecting to find him with another girl whom I suspected could have sent the messageâ€.
Margie found the boyfriend alone in bed. “He looked nervous, but I pretended I had not seen the message and thank God I had deleted the message. He refused to tell me what the message he sent wasâ€.
They both blamed MTN for inefficiency and he quickly changed the subject.
“I decided to try and seduced him and the fool responded. Somehow, I failed to hide my pain and burst out crying.
He soothed me with words of love, but I felt like I was forcing myself on him. I told him it was over. Though he did not seem to mind, at least I was the one who was ending it,â€she added.
Indeed, closing shop with an SMS is such a childish and cowardly thing to do. Science in News quoted Tamer as saying 9% of people in the UK claim they have dumped someone via text message.
And, as you get younger (the 15 to 24 age demographic), the percentage rises to 20%.
A 2004 Australian study of SMS habits also revealed that text messages are a common way to say it’s over. Clinical psychologist Dr. Natalie Robinson from Macquarie University in Sydney said from a group of 100 young adults, 15% had ended a relationship with a text message, the majority being the younger ones.
Another survey by Swiss messaging services provider Sicap two years ago, says partners use text messaging more when relationships become rocky and 9% admitted to having dumped a lover by sending a text message. Most of those were high school students.
In the same survey, 7% confessed having been on the receiving end of a booting SMS and as expected, they did not find it pleasant.
If you find yourself in the club, do not just close the university without demanding to see the axe holder. Force him/her to discuss the ending. That way, you will also be sure it was not some rival using your Hornsleth’s phone to edge you out.
Experts agree that all sacking SMSs reek with immaturity, lack of resolve, fear of responsibility and depict the pitiable mentality your partner has of the relationship. In that case, let them go, you are worth more and better.
What would you do if your lover ditched you through an SMS?
Henry Kemigabo
I can demand to see her so that I beg her to change her mind. It is different meeting than talking to her on phone. But if I want to break up with her, I would prefer to send her an sms. If we talked face-to-face, she would realise that I am serious and she could end up hurting herself. So I send an sms to leave her thinking I might be joking.
Grace Wanyana
If he sent me such an sms when we did not have any misunderstanding, I would demand to see him. Besides, if you want someone to take you serious on such an issue, you need to see him so that you tie up the loose ends. I would tell it to him face-to-face, otherwise, he might think I am joking.
Christine
I would not bother confronting him. I would believe him especially if he is sending such an SMS for the first time. But if I want to break up with him, I would show how serious I am by telling him face-to-face, not through an sms. Men think that women are not decisive, so he might easily think he could change my mind if he meets me.
Godfrey Ssentamu
I cannot believe her. If she tells me she has found another person, I would have to trail her to confirm. No one will regard such an sms seriously. In fact, if I wanted to break up with her, I would simply walk to her.
Compiled by Raphael Okello
You are expecting your Beloved Hornsleth to call because lately, the relationship looks like Kampala’s potholed roads.
You have been thinking over it and decided to call off the ‘strike’ because you do not want the love you have given a lot to be frozen.
Then, he sends an SMS. You dive for the phone and excitedly open the message: ‘Hi, I’m thru w u! Twas nic yl it lastd, bye’
Oh, are you fired? On SMS! Is it a joke?
But why should anyone joke with your heart? Can an SMS close a university of love? Should you send a pleading SMS reply? Should you fire back an ‘I don’t care?’ What do you do?
Last week, Britney Spears, 24, sent her soon-to-be-ex-husband, Kevin Federline, an SMS: “I have filed for divorce!†Apparently, Reuters reported, Federline was taping a reality show in Canada when he got the axing SMS.
He put his head in his hands, ripped off his microphone and disappeared, returning 30 minutes later visibly upset. Unfortunately, all this was captured on video.
Spears’ SMS missile was such an abrupt teargas that rapper Federline may sneeze for a long time. And you still think an SMS is as cheap as sh50?
Experts on text message use and etiquette say Federline is not the first to be dumped by text – and certainly would not be the last, with rising numbers of teenagers and 20-somethings using text to avoid confrontation.
The chief executive of online wireless retailer LetsTalk.com, Delly Tamer, said break up SMSs are common among people in their teens and 20s, who have not yet considered love relationships as life investments.
Margie drunk from the same cup while still at the university two years ago.
“It was a Sunday morningâ€, she said.
“The SMS just said; ‘It’s ova! Do not wana c u gain – ex’. I immediately headed for his hostel near Bwaise expecting to find him with another girl whom I suspected could have sent the messageâ€.
Margie found the boyfriend alone in bed. “He looked nervous, but I pretended I had not seen the message and thank God I had deleted the message. He refused to tell me what the message he sent wasâ€.
They both blamed MTN for inefficiency and he quickly changed the subject.
“I decided to try and seduced him and the fool responded. Somehow, I failed to hide my pain and burst out crying.
He soothed me with words of love, but I felt like I was forcing myself on him. I told him it was over. Though he did not seem to mind, at least I was the one who was ending it,â€she added.
Indeed, closing shop with an SMS is such a childish and cowardly thing to do. Science in News quoted Tamer as saying 9% of people in the UK claim they have dumped someone via text message.
And, as you get younger (the 15 to 24 age demographic), the percentage rises to 20%.
A 2004 Australian study of SMS habits also revealed that text messages are a common way to say it’s over. Clinical psychologist Dr. Natalie Robinson from Macquarie University in Sydney said from a group of 100 young adults, 15% had ended a relationship with a text message, the majority being the younger ones.
Another survey by Swiss messaging services provider Sicap two years ago, says partners use text messaging more when relationships become rocky and 9% admitted to having dumped a lover by sending a text message. Most of those were high school students.
In the same survey, 7% confessed having been on the receiving end of a booting SMS and as expected, they did not find it pleasant.
If you find yourself in the club, do not just close the university without demanding to see the axe holder. Force him/her to discuss the ending. That way, you will also be sure it was not some rival using your Hornsleth’s phone to edge you out.
Experts agree that all sacking SMSs reek with immaturity, lack of resolve, fear of responsibility and depict the pitiable mentality your partner has of the relationship. In that case, let them go, you are worth more and better.
What would you do if your lover ditched you through an SMS?
Henry Kemigabo
I can demand to see her so that I beg her to change her mind. It is different meeting than talking to her on phone. But if I want to break up with her, I would prefer to send her an sms. If we talked face-to-face, she would realise that I am serious and she could end up hurting herself. So I send an sms to leave her thinking I might be joking.
Grace Wanyana
If he sent me such an sms when we did not have any misunderstanding, I would demand to see him. Besides, if you want someone to take you serious on such an issue, you need to see him so that you tie up the loose ends. I would tell it to him face-to-face, otherwise, he might think I am joking.
Christine
I would not bother confronting him. I would believe him especially if he is sending such an SMS for the first time. But if I want to break up with him, I would show how serious I am by telling him face-to-face, not through an sms. Men think that women are not decisive, so he might easily think he could change my mind if he meets me.
Godfrey Ssentamu
I cannot believe her. If she tells me she has found another person, I would have to trail her to confirm. No one will regard such an sms seriously. In fact, if I wanted to break up with her, I would simply walk to her.
Compiled by Raphael Okello