How to avoid being defiled
Feb 13, 2005
Defilement is criminal and you have a right to protect yourself from it while you are at school. Teachers have ethics, which dictate that they should not defile their students. However, many schoolgirls have fallen victim to defilement by their teachers.
By Elvina Nawaguna
Defilement is criminal and you have a right to protect yourself from it while you are at school. Teachers have ethics, which dictate that they should not defile their students. However, many schoolgirls have fallen victim to defilement by their teachers. According to Edith Mukisa, the programme director of Naguru Teenage Centre, by the time a teacher defiles you, he must have been planning it for a long time. Girls should be able to see early signs. This is very important in protecting oneself from defilement.
Girls should be aware of the good and bad touches or words. If the teacher touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should be suspicious! Be aware of the way a teacher says certain things to you. Mukisa says you can look into his eyes and see the lust in the eyes of a teacher, who is planning to defile you.
Sometimes, a teacher may write on your book or test paper “See me after class.†Or if the teacher asks you, instead of the class monitor to take his books to his home, then you have reason to be suspicious. It is very clear that most schools do not allow students at the teacher’s quarters, so if you go there, you are putting yourself in a risky situation. “If the teacher asks you to take books to his place or for whatever reason, tell him that it is not allowed,†Mukisa says. The problem is that many students fear because the teacher is the authority in the school.
“Schools should have tough policies restricting pupils and students from going to teachers homes,†she insists. But if the teacher insists that you go to his home, then go with a friend just in case something happens.
Be aware of male teachers, who get close to you during coaching. Where is it taking place? Are you alone or with others? Are you told to come earlier than others or earlier than usual? If so, then you have a reason to be suspicious and keep away from such a teacher.
Mukisa says at times a teacher may become very hard on you, abuse you and make you uncomfortable. He is trying to make it difficult for you so that later, when he makes his approach, it is hard for you to resist. In such a case, do not be intimidated by his tough side when he approaches you.
If you find yourself in a tight situation, you can still fight.
“You can shout and tell him that you will report him,†Mukisa says.
However, if it has happened, do not blame yourself. “It is not your fault. Talk to someone about it.â€
Every school has a senior woman teacher whom you can talk to. You may also talk to a female teacher you trust.
Do not wait until it is too late.
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Defilement is criminal and you have a right to protect yourself from it while you are at school. Teachers have ethics, which dictate that they should not defile their students. However, many schoolgirls have fallen victim to defilement by their teachers. According to Edith Mukisa, the programme director of Naguru Teenage Centre, by the time a teacher defiles you, he must have been planning it for a long time. Girls should be able to see early signs. This is very important in protecting oneself from defilement.
Girls should be aware of the good and bad touches or words. If the teacher touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, then you should be suspicious! Be aware of the way a teacher says certain things to you. Mukisa says you can look into his eyes and see the lust in the eyes of a teacher, who is planning to defile you.
Sometimes, a teacher may write on your book or test paper “See me after class.†Or if the teacher asks you, instead of the class monitor to take his books to his home, then you have reason to be suspicious. It is very clear that most schools do not allow students at the teacher’s quarters, so if you go there, you are putting yourself in a risky situation. “If the teacher asks you to take books to his place or for whatever reason, tell him that it is not allowed,†Mukisa says. The problem is that many students fear because the teacher is the authority in the school.
“Schools should have tough policies restricting pupils and students from going to teachers homes,†she insists. But if the teacher insists that you go to his home, then go with a friend just in case something happens.
Be aware of male teachers, who get close to you during coaching. Where is it taking place? Are you alone or with others? Are you told to come earlier than others or earlier than usual? If so, then you have a reason to be suspicious and keep away from such a teacher.
Mukisa says at times a teacher may become very hard on you, abuse you and make you uncomfortable. He is trying to make it difficult for you so that later, when he makes his approach, it is hard for you to resist. In such a case, do not be intimidated by his tough side when he approaches you.
If you find yourself in a tight situation, you can still fight.
“You can shout and tell him that you will report him,†Mukisa says.
However, if it has happened, do not blame yourself. “It is not your fault. Talk to someone about it.â€
Every school has a senior woman teacher whom you can talk to. You may also talk to a female teacher you trust.
Do not wait until it is too late.
Ends