Don’t be intimidated check her phone, bag
Aug 12, 2005
AFTER partying at a friend’s wedding, this couple retired home long after the sun had. Then Prossy Nakiyimba, 36, returned from the loos to find her hubby, Ben Wamala, scanning her phone. He was reading her SMS.
DRLOVE with Hilary Bainemigisha
AFTER partying at a friend’s wedding, this couple retired home long after the sun had. Then Prossy Nakiyimba, 36, returned from the loos to find her hubby, Ben Wamala, scanning her phone. He was reading her SMS.
In a fit of blind anger, and possibly guilt, the medical practitioner at Mityana Hospital hit her unsuspecting husband with an axe before disappearing into the dark. The man was hurried to hospital. Prossy is still at large.
When this news came out on Tuesday, I heard CBS’s Kalisoliso discouraging people from checking spouses’ phones, pockets, drawers etc. They argued that your partner must be given space, privacy and freedom. In a way, trying to understand Prossy’s crime.
What an unfortunate advice! The motive may be noble (saving a marriage) but the modus operandi is wrong and unacceptable. I always encourage couples to do whatever it takes to save a marriage but giving each other freedom is not one of the methods.
I feel like shouting this out over and over again. There is nothing like marriage and independence! The two don’t rhyme.
They are like the Movement and multiparties. You choose either not both.
When you marry, you open up your life, your everything to the partner. And this includes your life because a philandering spouse can kill you with HIV. It is therefore your duty to protect your life, the partner’s life and the lives of the offspring at all costs. This includes, and must not be limited to, access to information that may jeopardise the security of the marriage.
It is in this spirit that I want to scorn couples who frown at ‘invasion of privacy’ by a partner. Which privacy? You lose that the moment you are declared man and wife.
I have no excuses to offer for checking my wife’s bag anytime anyplace, anywhere. If I can access her most private parts, what is a phone, bag or drawer?
I don’t even have to hide myself before scanning her phone. This is a security matter that could have stopped M7 from burying his great friend, so I don’t shy away from it.
I also believe it is my wife’s duty to hide any information that may make me suspicious.
You see, some people will cheat on you whether you buy better choppers or not. But when they fail to conceal it, they should face fire. A married person who cheats should be crucified for being unfaithful and failing to hide it. You cheat on me (which is bad) and bring evidence home (which is worse) and let the evidence sleep with me in the bedroom (which is worst) and have the guts to plead privacy when my own life is at stake! Did nobody listen when M7 was saying he vowed not to donate his life to assassins?
This fear of breaking the marriage is a suicidal self-defeating sword. Tell me why you should not break the marriage when the person, in whose hands your life dwells, is planning bad weather for your chopper? Is that marriage anyway?
Be serious. It is your right to sniff anywhere on your partner. And men, don’t be intimidated. Take Kalisoliso as a page of irrelevant lines. Keep checking the phones. Smoke them out brother! If your partner cheats, let her sweat through the processes of hiding evidence.
When it becomes too inconveniencing, she will stop it and settle down. Those who feel uncomfortable with it should postpone marriage until they mature.
AFTER partying at a friend’s wedding, this couple retired home long after the sun had. Then Prossy Nakiyimba, 36, returned from the loos to find her hubby, Ben Wamala, scanning her phone. He was reading her SMS.
In a fit of blind anger, and possibly guilt, the medical practitioner at Mityana Hospital hit her unsuspecting husband with an axe before disappearing into the dark. The man was hurried to hospital. Prossy is still at large.
When this news came out on Tuesday, I heard CBS’s Kalisoliso discouraging people from checking spouses’ phones, pockets, drawers etc. They argued that your partner must be given space, privacy and freedom. In a way, trying to understand Prossy’s crime.
What an unfortunate advice! The motive may be noble (saving a marriage) but the modus operandi is wrong and unacceptable. I always encourage couples to do whatever it takes to save a marriage but giving each other freedom is not one of the methods.
I feel like shouting this out over and over again. There is nothing like marriage and independence! The two don’t rhyme.
They are like the Movement and multiparties. You choose either not both.
When you marry, you open up your life, your everything to the partner. And this includes your life because a philandering spouse can kill you with HIV. It is therefore your duty to protect your life, the partner’s life and the lives of the offspring at all costs. This includes, and must not be limited to, access to information that may jeopardise the security of the marriage.
It is in this spirit that I want to scorn couples who frown at ‘invasion of privacy’ by a partner. Which privacy? You lose that the moment you are declared man and wife.
I have no excuses to offer for checking my wife’s bag anytime anyplace, anywhere. If I can access her most private parts, what is a phone, bag or drawer?
I don’t even have to hide myself before scanning her phone. This is a security matter that could have stopped M7 from burying his great friend, so I don’t shy away from it.
I also believe it is my wife’s duty to hide any information that may make me suspicious.
You see, some people will cheat on you whether you buy better choppers or not. But when they fail to conceal it, they should face fire. A married person who cheats should be crucified for being unfaithful and failing to hide it. You cheat on me (which is bad) and bring evidence home (which is worse) and let the evidence sleep with me in the bedroom (which is worst) and have the guts to plead privacy when my own life is at stake! Did nobody listen when M7 was saying he vowed not to donate his life to assassins?
This fear of breaking the marriage is a suicidal self-defeating sword. Tell me why you should not break the marriage when the person, in whose hands your life dwells, is planning bad weather for your chopper? Is that marriage anyway?
Be serious. It is your right to sniff anywhere on your partner. And men, don’t be intimidated. Take Kalisoliso as a page of irrelevant lines. Keep checking the phones. Smoke them out brother! If your partner cheats, let her sweat through the processes of hiding evidence.
When it becomes too inconveniencing, she will stop it and settle down. Those who feel uncomfortable with it should postpone marriage until they mature.