Does your child respect other people’s privacy?
A mother walked into our office recently with her two sons. They all sat as they waited to be served. My colleague who was taking soda and a piece of cake moved from her desk to search for a document from a filing cabinet.
A mother walked into our office recently with her two sons. They all sat as they waited to be served. My colleague who was taking soda and a piece of cake moved from her desk to search for a document from a filing cabinet.
Then all hell broke loose. The two boys (aged between 6 and 8) went berserk. They jumped from one seat to another, touched every computer in sight and dialled every phone available. Before my colleague could return to her desk one of the boys had jumped to her seat, touched the computer keyboard hence disorganising her work. He then descended on her remaining piece of cake and cleared it without her consent.
Work almost came to a standstill as we were treated to a rare drama of child indiscipline. While all this drama was unfolding, their mother sat and watched speechlessly like there was nothing wrong. She was even amused by the speed at which her son grabbed and swallowed my colleague’s cake.
It is tempting to brand these boys as indisciplined and ill mannered. Well, I would urge you to shelve your criticism and join me as we take an exciting trip into the land of child training.
Your child is a mirror, which clearly reflects your parenting strengths and weaknesses. Experience has it that most parents feel more responsible for their children’s success than failures. No parent wants to own up to the mistakes and failures of their children. Do you fall in this category? The drama we witnessed was as a result of the mother’s failure to train the boys something essential at an early age. What you fail to teach your child in childhood will be seen in adulthood. Have you ever taught your child the importance of respecting people’s property and privacy? The two boys cited had not learnt to respect other people’s property and privacy. This skill is called social etiquette. Let us share some tips, which could help you mould your child.:
lTeach your child to be sensitive to other people’s feelings at all times. For example, talking or laughing with food in the mouth might seem exciting but are other people comfortable as you do so?
Your child might feel like shouting while you are listening to news. Instead of shouting back, place the child in your shoe and let him/her feel what you feel. Use ‘I’ statements at all times. Say ‘I feel uncomfortable with your noise’ and not ‘You are shouting too much and I shall not tolerate you here.’
lCriticise the wrong behaviour (not the child) and explain how it affects others. Use statements like, ‘Bobby, shouting in the sitting room disturbs the baby’s sleep and distracts me from listening to news.
lTrain your child to apologise whenever he/she hurts others.
lYour child must learn not to touch anything, which doesn’t belong to him/her without permission. This level of self-discipline must be instilled into a child from the earliest stage.
jamesawagwau@yahoo.com 077-631032
Words like ‘I am sorry’ and ‘please’ must reside in the child’s lips all times. You must set an example here. Do you ever apologise whenever you hurt your child’s feelings? If you want your child to be sensitive towards others then you too must be sensitive towards your child. Your actions preach loudest.
· Your child must learn not to touch anything, which doesn’t belong to him/her without permission. This level of self-discipline must be instilled into a child from the earliest stage. It is indiscipline for a child to eat a sandwich from the fridge without caring to know the owner and seeking consent. He/she should not even touch a new toy without seeking your permission.
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· Your child should never enter a room of any nature without knocking. He/she must respect people’s house while on a visit. He/she should not pull a seat to sit until invited to so, should not eat food even if served unless invited.
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James Baldwin once said, “ Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.†Whatever you do at home gives your child the blueprint for interacting with people outside of your home. Till next week, just be a responsible parent.
jamesawagwau@yahoo.com (077-631032)
11 Kiboga HMs barred
By Moses Nsubuga and Chris Kiwawulo
KIBOGA district council last week interdicted 11 head teachers for failing to account for Universal Primary Education (UPE) funds totalling sh10m.
The HMs allegedly got the funds in July 2003 but failed to account for it.
They included William Byaruhanga, David Senyonga, Charles Mafaaya, Moses Isabirye, Dumba Kyaugalanyi, Fred Kabuye, Luutu Kizito and many others.
The LC5 boss, Siraje Nkugwa said all head teachers who fail to account for UPE funds will be apprehended.
Then all hell broke loose. The two boys (aged between 6 and 8) went berserk. They jumped from one seat to another, touched every computer in sight and dialled every phone available. Before my colleague could return to her desk one of the boys had jumped to her seat, touched the computer keyboard hence disorganising her work. He then descended on her remaining piece of cake and cleared it without her consent.
Work almost came to a standstill as we were treated to a rare drama of child indiscipline. While all this drama was unfolding, their mother sat and watched speechlessly like there was nothing wrong. She was even amused by the speed at which her son grabbed and swallowed my colleague’s cake.
It is tempting to brand these boys as indisciplined and ill mannered. Well, I would urge you to shelve your criticism and join me as we take an exciting trip into the land of child training.
Your child is a mirror, which clearly reflects your parenting strengths and weaknesses. Experience has it that most parents feel more responsible for their children’s success than failures. No parent wants to own up to the mistakes and failures of their children. Do you fall in this category? The drama we witnessed was as a result of the mother’s failure to train the boys something essential at an early age. What you fail to teach your child in childhood will be seen in adulthood. Have you ever taught your child the importance of respecting people’s property and privacy? The two boys cited had not learnt to respect other people’s property and privacy. This skill is called social etiquette. Let us share some tips, which could help you mould your child.:
lTeach your child to be sensitive to other people’s feelings at all times. For example, talking or laughing with food in the mouth might seem exciting but are other people comfortable as you do so?
Your child might feel like shouting while you are listening to news. Instead of shouting back, place the child in your shoe and let him/her feel what you feel. Use ‘I’ statements at all times. Say ‘I feel uncomfortable with your noise’ and not ‘You are shouting too much and I shall not tolerate you here.’
lCriticise the wrong behaviour (not the child) and explain how it affects others. Use statements like, ‘Bobby, shouting in the sitting room disturbs the baby’s sleep and distracts me from listening to news.
lTrain your child to apologise whenever he/she hurts others.
lYour child must learn not to touch anything, which doesn’t belong to him/her without permission. This level of self-discipline must be instilled into a child from the earliest stage.
jamesawagwau@yahoo.com 077-631032
Words like ‘I am sorry’ and ‘please’ must reside in the child’s lips all times. You must set an example here. Do you ever apologise whenever you hurt your child’s feelings? If you want your child to be sensitive towards others then you too must be sensitive towards your child. Your actions preach loudest.
· Your child must learn not to touch anything, which doesn’t belong to him/her without permission. This level of self-discipline must be instilled into a child from the earliest stage. It is indiscipline for a child to eat a sandwich from the fridge without caring to know the owner and seeking consent. He/she should not even touch a new toy without seeking your permission.
·
· Your child should never enter a room of any nature without knocking. He/she must respect people’s house while on a visit. He/she should not pull a seat to sit until invited to so, should not eat food even if served unless invited.
·
James Baldwin once said, “ Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.†Whatever you do at home gives your child the blueprint for interacting with people outside of your home. Till next week, just be a responsible parent.
jamesawagwau@yahoo.com (077-631032)
11 Kiboga HMs barred
By Moses Nsubuga and Chris Kiwawulo
KIBOGA district council last week interdicted 11 head teachers for failing to account for Universal Primary Education (UPE) funds totalling sh10m.
The HMs allegedly got the funds in July 2003 but failed to account for it.
They included William Byaruhanga, David Senyonga, Charles Mafaaya, Moses Isabirye, Dumba Kyaugalanyi, Fred Kabuye, Luutu Kizito and many others.
The LC5 boss, Siraje Nkugwa said all head teachers who fail to account for UPE funds will be apprehended.