I want a man who will take control
Apr 16, 2011
SYLVIA Namugenyi, a local pop musician, is best known for her songs <i>Ki Ssebo</i> and <i>Kisambagala</i>. She recently split with Ronnie Nkoyooyo, her manager and boyfriend of three years. She told local media she had dumped him because he had become ‘ro¬mantically useless’. <b>Titus Serunjog
SYLVIA Namugenyi, a local pop musician, is best known for her songs Ki Ssebo and Kisambagala. She recently split with Ronnie Nkoyooyo, her manager and boyfriend of three years. She told local media she had dumped him because he had become ‘ro¬mantically useless’. Titus Serunjogi asked her about it.
How could you just blow the three years you had with your manager and boy¬friend?
We failed to mix love with business. I discovered that we could no longer get along as business partners and lovers at the same time.
When I suggested that I get another manager and we go on with our romance, he refused. So I suggested that he stops being my boyfriend and re¬mains my manager, he became so angry and almost chopped me into pieces.
We failed to reach an agree¬ment and he walked out on me and even left the country. But it was good riddance. Now I have another manager.
Are you searching for a lover?
I am not desperate for a man right now. But you know a woman cannot stop men from approaching her or trying to chat her up. Actually, the more you refuse them, the more they keep on trying. So, yeah, any man is welcome to bring me their manifesto.
What is your ideal man?
If he is educated, has stamina and is at least 10 years older than me, he will do. But I do not want a possessive man who will hover over me all the time. He should be ready to give me space.
Why would you want a man that much older?
Look; I am 27 years old. But boys my age suck. I think they still have a lot to discover about themselves. They shun respon¬sibility, are selfish, like talking too much about themselves and they just cannot appreci¬ate the fact that to us, women, emotions matter a lot.
Supposing he is 27, but has enough money to build you a mansion and buy you a Mercedes…
Now that is the worst type. Young men with a lot of money know there are many women out there who will fall for them. So they hardly respect their girlfriends’ emotions.
So why don’t you just pick up any 60-something year old mzee?
It is not only about age, but maturity. Of course you would not expect me to fall in love with a senile, poor man. I expect that, by 38, a man is fo¬cused and has already built up more of everything than I have. He has more money, a stable job, a respectable social circle, he is perhaps more educated and has gone through enough experiences. He can advise me appropriately.
Should I say Ronnie was im¬mature?
(Silence…then laughter) Okay, yes, you got me. Okay yes, he was. I started to get disgusted with Ronnie when I noticed that I was doing everything in sustaining our relationship.
By 25, most women are ready to settle down into family life but boys are still fooling around and experiment¬ing with every other woman. Yes, Ronnie was a good business person but, relationship wise, I always had to take the lead, which is a burden. I want a man who will take control.
How could you just blow the three years you had with your manager and boy¬friend?
We failed to mix love with business. I discovered that we could no longer get along as business partners and lovers at the same time.
When I suggested that I get another manager and we go on with our romance, he refused. So I suggested that he stops being my boyfriend and re¬mains my manager, he became so angry and almost chopped me into pieces.
We failed to reach an agree¬ment and he walked out on me and even left the country. But it was good riddance. Now I have another manager.
Are you searching for a lover?
I am not desperate for a man right now. But you know a woman cannot stop men from approaching her or trying to chat her up. Actually, the more you refuse them, the more they keep on trying. So, yeah, any man is welcome to bring me their manifesto.
What is your ideal man?
If he is educated, has stamina and is at least 10 years older than me, he will do. But I do not want a possessive man who will hover over me all the time. He should be ready to give me space.
Why would you want a man that much older?
Look; I am 27 years old. But boys my age suck. I think they still have a lot to discover about themselves. They shun respon¬sibility, are selfish, like talking too much about themselves and they just cannot appreci¬ate the fact that to us, women, emotions matter a lot.
Supposing he is 27, but has enough money to build you a mansion and buy you a Mercedes…
Now that is the worst type. Young men with a lot of money know there are many women out there who will fall for them. So they hardly respect their girlfriends’ emotions.
So why don’t you just pick up any 60-something year old mzee?
It is not only about age, but maturity. Of course you would not expect me to fall in love with a senile, poor man. I expect that, by 38, a man is fo¬cused and has already built up more of everything than I have. He has more money, a stable job, a respectable social circle, he is perhaps more educated and has gone through enough experiences. He can advise me appropriately.
Should I say Ronnie was im¬mature?
(Silence…then laughter) Okay, yes, you got me. Okay yes, he was. I started to get disgusted with Ronnie when I noticed that I was doing everything in sustaining our relationship.
By 25, most women are ready to settle down into family life but boys are still fooling around and experiment¬ing with every other woman. Yes, Ronnie was a good business person but, relationship wise, I always had to take the lead, which is a burden. I want a man who will take control.