I get attracted to girls, but I fear approaching them
I have a big problem. I fear women, especially those I am attracted to. I fear to approach them and I end up not getting them. It seems whenever I try to talk to a lady, I never succeed, at first she may seem interested, but later, I don’t know what happens. She abandons me.
I have a big problem. I fear women, especially those I am attracted to. I fear to approach them and I end up not getting them. It seems whenever I try to talk to a lady, I never succeed, at first she may seem interested, but later, I don’t know what happens. She abandons me.
Please advise me because I do not know what to do.
It sounds like you are habouring anxiety, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. This kind of anxiety may arise from the fear of rejection or embarrassment, especially if you are interested in committal relationships. Do you find yourself in this state? Like you fear she may say ‘NO’ to your proposal, or possibly you are afraid that she may not accept you? Don’t lose heart; you can still face up to your fear. You can teach your mind not to fear.
If being with a lady makes you anxious, you could try associating with groups rather than individuals for a start. This helps you to appreciate, learn and accept women. Then gradually you can single out one as your anxiety fades out.
It is also important for you to be yourself. When you try to act or impress you cease to be yourself. You need someone to accept you for who you are. You can surely get past this feeling.
Please advise me because I do not know what to do.
It sounds like you are habouring anxiety, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. This kind of anxiety may arise from the fear of rejection or embarrassment, especially if you are interested in committal relationships. Do you find yourself in this state? Like you fear she may say ‘NO’ to your proposal, or possibly you are afraid that she may not accept you? Don’t lose heart; you can still face up to your fear. You can teach your mind not to fear.
If being with a lady makes you anxious, you could try associating with groups rather than individuals for a start. This helps you to appreciate, learn and accept women. Then gradually you can single out one as your anxiety fades out.
It is also important for you to be yourself. When you try to act or impress you cease to be yourself. You need someone to accept you for who you are. You can surely get past this feeling.