How feasible is the time table?
Even when it doesn’t come as a prescription from the inevitable events, couples who are not agreed on the frequency may adopt a timetable as a negotiated compromise.
Even when it doesn’t come as a prescription from the inevitable events, couples who are not agreed on the frequency may adopt a timetable as a negotiated compromise.
You probably have heard of this fun: A young wife was frustrated with her husband’s constant demands for sex. So she decided to make a schedule for him and cut down on the amount of sex they were having in their marriage.
She wrote him a letter and left it on the dining table: “Honey, you know I love you, but your never ending requests for sex are leaving me drained and really tired.â€
“So I propose that we only have sex on days that start with the letter ‘T’, to cater for what I can handle. Just understand and agree. I promise to be all yours without fail as long as the day starts with ‘T’.
Upon returning home, she found a reply on the dining table: “Baby, I didn’t realise that I was putting you under so much pressure and I am sorry. I accept your proposal and have even taken the extra step of listing those days starting with the letter ‘T’ to make sure that we are on the same page: Tuesday, Thursday, Today and Tomorrow – just four days. I agree. N.B. I love you too and remember it’s still Today; I am waiting for you in the bedroom.â€
In short, having a time table for sex is recipe for disaster. Not only does it affect the spontaneity, but it also puts people on tension, becomes difficult to adhere to and ignores the special needs of a partner.
On that sex day, you may have a busy day, return home tired, find more kitchen workor urgent plumbing, children and etc to attend to. You are exhausted, but, hey, your partner is still faithful to the timetable! What kind of sex will you expect that to be? And if you propose a timetable for sex and your partner accepts, when you are staying together, be worried. They may be getting it somewhere else.
Love making and sex should be spontaneous! He should be able to catch a sight of the wife in a nightgown and desire to jump into the swimming pool.
And she should be able to feel his pulsating hard on feel like swallowing it up. They don’t need to wait until the right time and hour on the calendar!
Removing spontaneity is killing romance. When sex ceases to be an exciting adventure, the frown usually extends to the whole marriage. Sexual excitement does not follow a pattern. A calendar does. There are days a normal human being will just not be interested. A calendar does not consider that.
Normally, married people should not keep track of their sexual events. When this happens, it becomes a sign of one partner’s dissatisfaction with the sexual frequency. That partner may note the number of previous sexual events to use in his or her argument for getting a raw deal.
You probably have heard of this fun: A young wife was frustrated with her husband’s constant demands for sex. So she decided to make a schedule for him and cut down on the amount of sex they were having in their marriage.
She wrote him a letter and left it on the dining table: “Honey, you know I love you, but your never ending requests for sex are leaving me drained and really tired.â€
“So I propose that we only have sex on days that start with the letter ‘T’, to cater for what I can handle. Just understand and agree. I promise to be all yours without fail as long as the day starts with ‘T’.
Upon returning home, she found a reply on the dining table: “Baby, I didn’t realise that I was putting you under so much pressure and I am sorry. I accept your proposal and have even taken the extra step of listing those days starting with the letter ‘T’ to make sure that we are on the same page: Tuesday, Thursday, Today and Tomorrow – just four days. I agree. N.B. I love you too and remember it’s still Today; I am waiting for you in the bedroom.â€
In short, having a time table for sex is recipe for disaster. Not only does it affect the spontaneity, but it also puts people on tension, becomes difficult to adhere to and ignores the special needs of a partner.
On that sex day, you may have a busy day, return home tired, find more kitchen workor urgent plumbing, children and etc to attend to. You are exhausted, but, hey, your partner is still faithful to the timetable! What kind of sex will you expect that to be? And if you propose a timetable for sex and your partner accepts, when you are staying together, be worried. They may be getting it somewhere else.
Love making and sex should be spontaneous! He should be able to catch a sight of the wife in a nightgown and desire to jump into the swimming pool.
And she should be able to feel his pulsating hard on feel like swallowing it up. They don’t need to wait until the right time and hour on the calendar!
Removing spontaneity is killing romance. When sex ceases to be an exciting adventure, the frown usually extends to the whole marriage. Sexual excitement does not follow a pattern. A calendar does. There are days a normal human being will just not be interested. A calendar does not consider that.
Normally, married people should not keep track of their sexual events. When this happens, it becomes a sign of one partner’s dissatisfaction with the sexual frequency. That partner may note the number of previous sexual events to use in his or her argument for getting a raw deal.