Hey girl, get your groove back
Nov 15, 2011
There are things that happen to us as women that cause us to forget that we are sensual and feminine. These could be a terrible illness, childbirth, a bitter divorce, the end of a romance, the loss of a job or the demise of a loved one.
By Keturah Kamugasa
There are things that happen to us as women that cause us to forget that we are sensual and feminine. These could be a terrible illness, childbirth, a bitter divorce, the end of a romance, the loss of a job or the demise of a loved one.
When something traumatic happens, we spend so much time grieving or trying to regain our strength that our appearance ceases to matter.
After a stroke left me partially paralysed last year and a three-week stint in hospital, I had to relearn how to walk, feed myself, write, bath and dress myself. I was dependent on others for everything. The last thing on my mind was going to the salon. All I wanted was my independence back.
Moreover, with nurses and doctors having to check every part of my body, I ceased to feel like a woman. I was just a human being trying to get well. It took me a while to get my groove back.
Perhaps, you too are struggling to come to terms with some trauma and you don’t know where to begin.
Here are some tips that can be of help:
Go to the spa:
Choose a spa that is run professionally, where your privacy is guaranteed.
I visited Puri Spa at Forest Mall. I surrendered to Zura’s expertise as she gave me a much-needed body scrub. An hour and a half later, I was in touch with my body and femininity again.
Although my body can never win a modelling contest, I left feeling rejuvenated and beautiful.
Not only did my skin feel as soft and supple as a baby’s it was glowing because all the dead skin cells and discolouration had gone. I felt reborn.
Buy good skin and body care products:
Nothing softens skin like a good body butter or a lotion. I went for one called Luscious Kisses by Victoria’s Secret, which was just divine. It leaves your skin feeling like expensive velvet and smelling sweet.
Pay attention to your looks:
A visit to the salon can go a long way in restoring the need to take care of your hair. While there, have a manicure and pedicure and paint your nails bright red or orange. You could even go for colours you’d never have gone for just to look different.
Wear make up or better still, have a make-over and take some photos to remind you how gorgeous you looked.
Buy a new wardrobe:
There are few women who do not love clothes so the very act of trying on various outfits can be therapeutic. Go with a friend who makes you laugh and gives good advice as well. You don’t want negative people around during your time of recovery.
Get a social life:
Start going out with friends even if it is for a few hours a day. Change of scenery cannot be emphasised enough. Just getting out of the house for a drive and seeing other people can be quite uplifting.
Aspire for something:
Anticipating an event gives you some purpose. So start planning now for December 20 when Girl Power Ministries will have a Christmas celebration at Miracle Centre Cathedral, Rubaga. Get ready to dress up in Indian wear and interact with other women from all walks of life.
Have a laugh:
Laughter is truly medicine for the soul. I loved it when my sisters visited and we had a real laugh over a silly joke or some African-American comedy. It was awesome. Laughing releases tension and chases away worry and anxiety.
Interact with children:
These must be children you are comfortable with. My little nieces and nephews made me laugh and being with them made me grateful that I was alive. Owing to their innocence and inner beauty, children make you forget your challenges. They live life simply and yet embrace it whole heartedly.
Eat well:
This will boost your physical strength and immunity. Go to bed early and take it easy. Life is a gift and how we live it determines whether we celebrate or waste it.
Pray, pray, pray:
Prayer does change things. Remember, nothing is impossible with God. He is the only friend who never gets weary. He is the only one with the power to heal a sick body, mend a broken heart or comfort those who grieve.
He gives hope to the hopeless, strength to the weak and makes the paralysed walk again. He gave me back my life and I praise Him.