Cindy showcases Senga skills with solid relationship advice

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If you remember the original Blu 3 before she was kicked out for a certain Maya Buganda that had Jackie Chandiru, Lilian Mbabazi, Cinderella Sanyu seems to have beaten the odds and come out top having started a solo career as the outcast and underdog of the three ladies.

While one is battling deadly drug addiction, the other is laying low albeit doing some good music but it is Cindy galloping all the limelight first for her ‘battles' with pop act Shebah Karungi and now for showing us she could actually make a good Senga with her love tips given the chance.

Cindy shared some really solid relationship advice on how to keep a man during an interview on a local TV station. She made it known that the reason many men leave ladies after having ‘fun' with or what most people refer to as using and dumping them is because they have nothing more to offer beyond what happens between the sheets.

 "A lady should be able to come up with good suggestions and offer some constructive conversation in order to keep a man interested, these men need real companions and friends in their women not just bedmates," she said.

Talking about the qualities of the ideal man Cindy said the looks, the money, the fame and power can all disappear and what remains is his true self and what he has on the inside. "At the end of the day it is about the heart, if he has a good heart, is willing to be there for you in good and bad times, sticking with you all through then he is the man."

She emphasized that everything changes money can come and go, looks too can disappear as your hunk can gain weight and look funny insisting that at her ripe age of 34 years if you are a woman and you get a man with a good heart stick to him, it never gets better.

Women should take care of themselves and stop assuming that since you have the man with you right now all things are sorted. "Even if you have a had a child or a number of children for him, it doesn't mean you let go of yourself and stop taking care of your body besides doing the things that attracted him to you this may tempt him to find them out there." 

As for ladies with broken hearts, they need to take their time and heal before getting into other relationships, don't rush to fill up the hole because you will soon realise you made a big mistake and leave the man you rushed into a relationship with complicating your situation more in the process.

It is not good to rush into leaving a man she noted, if you are angry with him it is better you take a break and inform your lover about it then cool off and return otherwise if you leave and return yourself the man will look down on you and never take you seriously.

And when you finally choose to leave a man make sure you are ready for the consequences and going for good she emphasized.

In regards to having children, she gave advice to mainly the young ladies to avoid getting into the cycle of having to struggle with children neglected by their fathers. Women should first weigh if they will be able to take care of children minus the father's help before giving birth.   

"If you find yourself in a situation where you are struggling yourself then there is no reason why you should bring another life to earth to suffer," she said.

When you break up with your man, it shouldn't affect your child, try to show the child all is well with their father even though you can't live together. It is a way of protecting the child and do not keep bad mouthing the father in their face otherwise the child will grow up knowing all men are bad.

On the things that can make her leave a man first is her belief in God, if a man doesn't believe in God and won't let her take the children to church then that is a dead-end for her. Conflict between lovers should remain civil and respectful even if they are quarreling, if it gets to typical insults like those bayaye trade on the street then she will be out soon.

Know your man well in order to keep him if he loves lots of sex give it to him fully if it is a companion he needs to be the companion he is looking out for. Find out if you can handle the man's needs and fulfill them then do so, if you cannot let him go and get one you can handle.

Stop comparing your relationship with others and concentrate on being better than you were yesterday as a wife and as a couple she concluded. 

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