Joint account tearing us apart

We got married about two years ago and opened a joint account where our salaries are deposited.

At the start of the marriage, we agreed that each of us would get pocket money and use the rest of our salaries on investment and running the family.

My husband has a more flexible schedule and goes to the bank more often than I do. Getting him to provide the money to take care of some of the family's needs and my pocket money is a tug-of-war.

I got tired of this and suggested that we open separate accounts but it' is tearing the marriage apart.

What should I do?

Elvina