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How do you know you’ve found Mr, Miss right?

By Vision Reporter

Added 8th September 2014 08:25 PM

Finding the right partner or spouse means finding a person that you can see yourself growing old with.

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Finding the right partner or spouse means finding a person that you can see yourself growing old with.

By Halima Nampiima

Finding the right partner or spouse means finding a person that you can see yourself growing old with.


Therefore, choosing the person you want to marry or commit to forever is a very serious business, and it demands a lot of analysis, responsibility and honesty.

Are they ready for a longtime commitment?

Jean Nuwagaba, a counsellor at Kyambogo University, says the availability and willingness to engage in a mutually-exclusive relationship is one of the most important things.


 But second to that is a mature and stable character that can stand the test of time through different situations.


She says that a sense of commitment, responsibility and sacrifice also helps. Therefore, a potential partner should have a sense of purpose and direction.


This means that with agreeable values it will be possible to set goals and make decisions in the same direction.


Nuwagaba adds that the marriage expectations about gender roles and family growth should be mutual or agreeable. 


Also to consider are personal presentations like beauty, respect, unconditional love, openness, companionship, self-expression and confidence, as well as health compatibility.


Nuwagaba says that this cocktail might appear like an ideal position which is not possibly human but it sets the standard for analysis.


Senga Bridget Namatovu, a marriage counsellor, says people should be friends first, so as to appreciate each other’s weaknesses.


You also get to know each other’s dreams.


 Namatovu says a person should have a sense of contentment with their social and financial status, so they do not to compare their relationship and finances with other people around them. 

What do you seek in a partner?

Obalin Dan
 I would consider someone who is patient and enduring, respectful, presentable and learned and as God- fearing as I am.

Cate Namuli (kamuli)
I am very particular about the character and habits of my partner. I would also want a financially-stable, intelligent man who loves me and wants to be with me alone.

Lali Naima (Ntinda)
I would want someone honest, caring and loving. He should be able to respect me, as I respect him. He should be financially-stable and confident as well.

Jamila nampeera (Journalist)
I consider physical appearance, religion, family background, education and he should be at least 10 years older than me and financially-stable.

Luvie Chandia (Mukono)
We must be friends because it’s through that, that we can easily share the good and the bad.

Joy kabagambo
I want someone with whom I can feel free to share all my worries, without  being embarrassed.
 
Elly Muhereza (mukono)
I want someone with a good character, who would be ready to commit fully to the relationship and love me.
 

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