I cannot let her leave with property I bought her
Jul 09, 2009
WHEN you break up, there is no harm in confronting her to redeem all the gifts you lavished on her. <br>Many people are brainwashed by the Western ideals which deem demanding back what is rightfully yours uncouth.
By A. Balimwikungu
WHEN you break up, there is no harm in confronting her to redeem all the gifts you lavished on her.
Many people are brainwashed by the Western ideals which deem demanding back what is rightfully yours uncouth.
Well, to hell with that. I am a typical African man. I sweat for whatever comes my way and, therefore, dearly cherish my hard-earned property.
In a relationship, you invest heavily in gifts, trying desperately to get and sustain her attention.
So when her love flies out of the window; when some other chap catches her fancy, what am I supposed to do? Sit back and let the shameless fellow enjoy a fancy ride in “my†car?
Send his sweet missives to the phone I toiled to buy? No sir. If he wants to be a king, let him build his own kingdom. If I am descending the throne, I am taking with me all that facets of my empire. I am not paying for his comforts.
I am sure I am not alone. Think I am a little detached from reality, don’t you? Well, have you taken a look around Kampala lately?
There are plenty of Toyota Rav4s and Corsas on our roads. These cars are locally reffered to as Ompomedde (loosely translated as “I can’t get enough of youâ€) not because they are generally favoured by women drivers but because a considerable number of them are actually bought by guys for their women as way of saying exactly that: Ompomedde!
And that is not to mention the more expensive types with customised registration plates like “Mrs....â€
So now, if we agree a man can go so far to please his woman or map his teritory, just imagine what such a fellow would do he found you lounging in his girl’s cozy ride. Me?
I would definitely engage the services of the fiercest court bailiff to get my car back!
The dynamics of dating today have greatly changed and we as men have to adapt. today, money counts lot in dating. Even in the village, a belle will ask: Onompa kaki? Sirina ssimu (What will you give me?)
With money harder to come by today (with the global financial squeeze) than ever before, would you blame me for treating a relationship like a business?
I recall the days when I benched on campus. Some chick I pursued asked me if I could buy her a fridge!
Now, I believe the juice of an orange should be worth the squeeze. This one was not so I fled like a problem!
Later, I learnt some friend of mine had actually bought her the fridge. I recently heard the chick married another guy. I bet they used the poor guy’s fridge as entandikwa (start-up)!
I will not even start on fellows who pay tuition for their “future wives†only to realise the “future†bit of it had been a figment of their imagination the whole time.
How do you redeem such money? People have been known to kill in the heat of the moment, following frustration from such scenarios.
I guess you see I am not such a devil for taking back what is mine instead, huh?
WHEN you break up, there is no harm in confronting her to redeem all the gifts you lavished on her.
Many people are brainwashed by the Western ideals which deem demanding back what is rightfully yours uncouth.
Well, to hell with that. I am a typical African man. I sweat for whatever comes my way and, therefore, dearly cherish my hard-earned property.
In a relationship, you invest heavily in gifts, trying desperately to get and sustain her attention.
So when her love flies out of the window; when some other chap catches her fancy, what am I supposed to do? Sit back and let the shameless fellow enjoy a fancy ride in “my†car?
Send his sweet missives to the phone I toiled to buy? No sir. If he wants to be a king, let him build his own kingdom. If I am descending the throne, I am taking with me all that facets of my empire. I am not paying for his comforts.
I am sure I am not alone. Think I am a little detached from reality, don’t you? Well, have you taken a look around Kampala lately?
There are plenty of Toyota Rav4s and Corsas on our roads. These cars are locally reffered to as Ompomedde (loosely translated as “I can’t get enough of youâ€) not because they are generally favoured by women drivers but because a considerable number of them are actually bought by guys for their women as way of saying exactly that: Ompomedde!
And that is not to mention the more expensive types with customised registration plates like “Mrs....â€
So now, if we agree a man can go so far to please his woman or map his teritory, just imagine what such a fellow would do he found you lounging in his girl’s cozy ride. Me?
I would definitely engage the services of the fiercest court bailiff to get my car back!
The dynamics of dating today have greatly changed and we as men have to adapt. today, money counts lot in dating. Even in the village, a belle will ask: Onompa kaki? Sirina ssimu (What will you give me?)
With money harder to come by today (with the global financial squeeze) than ever before, would you blame me for treating a relationship like a business?
I recall the days when I benched on campus. Some chick I pursued asked me if I could buy her a fridge!
Now, I believe the juice of an orange should be worth the squeeze. This one was not so I fled like a problem!
Later, I learnt some friend of mine had actually bought her the fridge. I recently heard the chick married another guy. I bet they used the poor guy’s fridge as entandikwa (start-up)!
I will not even start on fellows who pay tuition for their “future wives†only to realise the “future†bit of it had been a figment of their imagination the whole time.
How do you redeem such money? People have been known to kill in the heat of the moment, following frustration from such scenarios.
I guess you see I am not such a devil for taking back what is mine instead, huh?